Dating : Should I send this text off to the girl I think is into me?
So, I met Jess at a speed dating event at which she was the host (yes lmao I went for the host).
We spoke for a bit and did what everyone else was doing–adding each other on FB.
I expanded the conversation further and eventually realized we like similar restaurants, etc. I straight up opened the new contact page on my phone and asked her to add herself. She did and it’s all good.
She then asked, can I take a picture with you? And the photographer took a picture.
Next day, I message her on Facebook:
Since I already asked, I was thinking of texting her a few days later, and texting:
« So when are you free for our date this week 😉 ? »
Is this considered too ballsy? My friend said don’t do it and wait till she messages.
Thank you!
You already messaged her. Now it’s up to you to wait to hear from her. If you do, make plans. If not well then it’s pretty clear she is not interested. Either way wait and you will find the answer.
No, you need to initiate the relationship, and make sure you don’t turn the messaging into a conversation (as you’ll just reveal everything about yourself -especially not negative things, which if you do put a positive spin on it, like how you grew- which you shouldn’t as she should be doing most of the talking and you should be questioning and listening), as that is what you do on your date.
Ask her when she is free to get together like you are, choose the date, and leave it at that with a nice end msg.
Don’t message to confirm the date either unless it is necessary (e.g. if your unable to make it or timings need to be changed) and then just have fun.
I’d recommend Coach Corey Wayne’s book 3% Man, great read with information/advice I’ve applied successfully.
Better if you wait, but don’t have high expectations. But instead of sounds good you could have said. Great msg me two days before so I prepare myself since Im tight in schedule
Good luck
I would say you already made your move and the ball is in her court now. Hopefully all goes well but next time if she says something like I will message you instead of saying sounds good or let me know say something like please get back to me by Wednesday or whatever date or time you want. If you say that it gives her a deadline and more of a sense of urgency to actually let you know whereas a more open ended response like sounds good lets her off the hook pretty easily if she doesn’t want to. Good luck!
« I’ll msg you » means « wait for me to message you. »
I’ve actually had girls message when they say this, but it’s definitely rare. Most of the time it seems they are just trying to get out of the conversation without saying no.
If she doesn’t message next week, you can try reaching out again, but the chances with that are pretty low too. Every girl is different though, so no harm in trying.
Wouldnt hold your breath.