Dating : Should I try online dating sites if I’m not good looking?
I’m 27M, asian, living in the US. I have lots of acquaintances but no true friends. I’ve never had a girlfriend either. I’m still in college, doing Engineering.
I’m thinking about making a profiles on dating sites, but whenever I look at myself in the mirror I feel discouraged. I’m average looking. Decent face. Skinny body. I’m only 5’4 tall and I’m asian. That’s a dealbreaker for many women in the US. Also I heard that online dating is 90% about looks so I’m not sure if I should give it a try.
It’s rough if you’re a guy and doing online dating. These days it’s a little bit of a shit show and it’s hard for women to commit. Plus women usually tend to use online dating as an ego boost and validation tool or to funnel followers to their social media accounts since they have a line of men constantly.
If you’re short and asian you probably wont do well
Well, online dating is an exercise in frustration for most men. At least it was so for me and a lot of guys I talked to about it.
Looks depend on which app/website you are using. And even there, it really is more about presentation. Make sure to have some good pictures. Something with dogs or other animals. and something that shows you in a fun situation or holding something funny (A female friend of mine told me that she wrote one guy on tinder just because he was holding a huge broccoli in his hands in one of his pictures. So don’t be afraid to be ~~random~~ unique).
On sites that have less pictures (and work more over profiles and such), showing that you are an active guy with a bunch of hobbies is good. But there, it is less how you present yourself and more how you introduce yourself. Girls tend to get a lot of messages, which is why you should make an effort to stand out (also, don’t expect anyone to write you back if you only write to three or four people. Ten at least. Sucks, but that is how it goes). Don’t send short, boring messages that are obviously copy-pasted. Make it a couple more sentences, try to show that you really read her profile. Those that read it will notice and appreciate it.
Anything online will just enhance the response you get in real life, mostly as they can do it faceless.
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So if your rejected in real life, you will be rejected 10 fold online. The premese was online would allow you to meet others without how you look, this was great except looks are everything as proven by the history of online dating.
You’re good enough just the way you are. Confidence is sexier than anything. For example I look just like my father. We are both over weight half nerds. He has confidence so he gets a lot of women and always has. I on the other hand had his stupid ass for a dad and he was abusive and fucked my mental health up so I never had much confidence , so I never got many women.
After I began to work on my confidence issue I began doing better with women and people in general . I still have issues but I’m better now than I have ever been and am only getting better
Its all about your state of mind my friend . go do things that make you feel powerful. Go hit the gym . pack on some muscle . style your hair in a way that compliments your face. Plenty of women don’t care about your height . and personally think Asian guys typically loom pretty good with facial hair . if you can grow a beard and mustache that could help with the confidence thing to.
You got this man
it will work if you have low standards and actively message every match you get and be very funny. just being honest.
I’m a white guy who has dated girls into Asian guys lol you will have fun out there bud
You absolutely should.
Whatever what you think of your look, you always gotta remember this: there’s always gonna be somebody who’s finds you sexy for who you are. I have a facial condition called PRS but its far from stoping me from getting meaningful relationships and crazy good sex.
Besides, dating apps give you the time to properly get to know the person before actually meeting up (that being my personnal approach, i know a lot of people just straight to bed).
Take the time you need.
Good luck