Dating : Should you go out on a date if you’re not excited about it?
So I’ve only recently started to get into online dating. I’ve been on a number of first dates but most of them have been pretty ‘meh’. I know it’s stupid to expect some amazing connection with someone you’ve only just met so often I agree to a second date if there is no red flags.
However I find that when it comes to the second date I’m usually not super excited about the prospect of seeing them again. It feels more like an obligation. Just in case I missed something the first time.
Needless to say none of these have progressed to a third. I’m wondering now if it’s because I’m really just dating anyone who asks.
So my question is: is feeling excitement the same as feeling a spark, and therefore not something that I should rely on? Or should I take my lack of excitement at seeing someone again as indication that we’re not meant to be?
Id say give at a try sometimes that excitment requires a few strikes before it sparks.
I mean do you enjoy talking to them. Are you the type who doesnt feel anything in general. Can they barely hold up a conversation. Do they disagree with you a lot resulting in you just saying yeah alright so you shut them up about it.
What other specifics make it feel like a choire
Sometimes it takes a couple of dates to get into someone. If you find them attractive and engaging in conversation then keep at it
It took me 4 dates before I felt any excitement with my current gf. Now I’m excited all the time to see her again.
I actually just went on a date on Tuesday that I wasn’t really that jazzed about, and I ended up having a great time and liking the guy quite a bit more than I thought I would! He’s already asked me out again 🙂 I’d say one IRL meeting is worth it just to be sure.