Dating : Slept with a guy I was dating
So I had been on a fair few dates with this guy, I had my guard up, but I got a bit more confident and slept with him. The next day the texts are different. Taking hours to reply. Online but not replying to my message. What do I do about this?
I would stop being the first to reach out and if he doesnt hit you up then move on
Sadly he got what he wanted so the chase is gone. That is why the change of behavior most likely. That might have been all he wanted
Why are people so quick to judge after literally not even 24 hours? Sex is dramatic, emotional, traumatising at times. Let someone collect their feelings a little. You are also in a hyper emotional state so take it calm and slow and don’t make any rash moves
He’s probably acting alpha male, after reading some advices on this sub and r/seduction. Give him a taste of his own medicine.
I dunno man, I jump to conclusions immediately because I’m a psycho. Is it possible you’re reading too much into it?
People are shitty. Honestly I lay out immediately that I don’t intend to play games or judge people for the time they spend on messages.
When I talk to someone, I explicitly tell intend to respond when I see it. If I’m delayed it’s for a reason so don’t pester me, it really just means I’m busy. And I expect the same thing. No games or intentional waiting between messages. And i say I’m not going to judge them as « »clingy » » for responding « »too quickly » ».
I find it kinda let’s the air out to just straight up say this. Sad it even needs to be said but its how it is. Be honest and tell them you won’t do it and you expect the same. Don’t call out a specific behavior, just tell them you want to be real next time you meet up. I usually have this conversation at like date 2 to make things Clear.
He got what he wanted and now he is bored or he isn’t impressed that u slept with him so quickly idk
There is nothing you can do except to cut ties if he pulls away and doesn’t pull himself back.
Maybe he’s just sleeping
He could be busy, conflicted, vulnerable…not sure how fair it is to make assumptions so soon. You could address it, that’s one way to go. You’ll get your answer but you may also push him away. You can ask him how he feels things went. Or you could keep things light for a bit and then try to make plans and see how it goes (or defer that decision to him, see if he makes plans or not). Probably, hopefully, you’re just overthinking it.
It is possible that the others are right about him getting what he wanted and now wanting to move on for one reason or another, but I don’t think it’s quite fair to make that call yet.
Don’t panic. If he changes, it’s all about him, nothing you did wrong. Use it to learn.