Dating : So my girlfriend of a year is leaving for college in 2 weeks, what should I do?
She’s leaving and will be about 4 hours away. I’m thinking the long distance will kill it as the relationship already isn’t where it used to be. But I’m worried I’ll never meet anyone like her again because we clicked so well. I also don’t want to ruin the friendship that we have. Will the distance be ok or what should I do?
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My friend and his girlfriend agreed to break up for the year and ended up getting back together over the summer. They’re gonna stay together during their sophomore year now.
Just some perspective, it CAN work out.
I drive three to four hours a day for work. If you love her make the time. You don’t have to see her every day.
Life is a ride that you cannot control. In hindsight you will see that everything worked out the way it was supposed to. Trust me.
I dated a girl for a year before we both went to college. We had mutually agreed to break up when we both went to college. We stayed together until she got on the flight to go to school. It was tough but ultimately the right decision.
We both were free to explore our new and very different independent lives. My friends who did stay together with their SOs were miserable until they ultimately broke up with them anyways. LDRs are hard anyways and going to college is a time of immense change and personal growth.
I was on great terms with my HS girlfriend for many years after and we hung out a number of times but ultimately found we had changed and were different people. No hard feelings, She’s now married and I’m in a very happy relationship.
If you’re meant to be together you’ll find your way back to eachother but save yourself a lot of drama and pain and just break up now while you’re on good terms. You can keep talking and if it’s meant to be you can ultimately get back together but starting college being single is a HUGE plus.
It can work if you’re both committed and loyal. My ex and I were together all throughout college and a 4 hour drive apart. However, there’s a lot you miss out on in college if you’re in a relationship, especially LDR. At the end of the day though, you should do what you both feel is best for your growth as individuals.
Move the fk on.
Long distance relationships are really, really common in college. Honestly, most people have them at some point. Easily a majority of the people you meet at the beginning of your freshman year will be in relationships, so you almost certainly won’t meet anybody who’s single and ready to mingle.
Just make plans to visit often. 4 hours is nothing. Trust me, you do not want to roll the dice in the dating pool. Stick with what you’ve got.