Dating : Somehow matched with someone that FOR ONCE I felt equally attracted to, did I fuck it up already?
I don’t know how it happened but I somehow managed to match with a girl I’m actually. like actually attracted to for once. With her, I wouldn’t feel like I’d be settling and she seems(seemed) interested too. here’s the short conversation(I’d rather not take a pic and just rehash it)…
Me: Lmao that photo geeked me out, it felt like one of those pictures from a scary movie that follow you around
Her: *laughing emojis* are you saying my face is scary?
Me: Yeah, you’re haunting…ly beautiful lol I think you might be a succubus
Her: I am. Don’t be surprised if I sneak into your room at night lol
Me: lol could you at least take me out to dinner before you devour my soul?
Her: No guarantees!
Then I said something about I’d guarantee she isn’t going to have an easy time getting into my room then. And I haven’t heard back since…
Really thought we had some good banter going back and forth. I’m so disappointed in myself…What could I have said or done better?
You opened by saying something that she obviously felt insulted by, then you turned the convo straight to something sexual and further insulting.
Her responses read to me as initially insulted, then way more patient than she needed to be, going along with your joke, then just flat disinterest in your continued line of conversation.
You might have properly apologized and then changed tack and said ANYTHING about a shared interest or a genuine compliment aside from « LOL jk ur a sex beast ». Like « I’m very sorry, that came across wrong. I think you’re very pretty and you seem very sweet. Since we both [collect stamps] I was wondering if you wanted to chat.
Do not sweat online interaction too much.
Years back when I did not know any better I engaged in internet dating.
One time I talked for hours with a woman on the phone.
Next day she wanted nothing to do with me.
She was just bored that first day.
Lol just message her again and ask her out man
Maybe not dwell over online conversations. You didnt fuck anything up. Fucking up wouldve been you saying hi and then sending a dick pic. Dont ever send a dic pic.. regardless if they ask you to
until they make an effort to see you in person – and feel you for who you are ….
it doesn’t mean shit my friend…
but here’s where you fucked up….. when she said no guarantees, that was her basically ending the banter…. cause it’s short and sweet….
its casual it’s whatever
just say « hey, you u like to get food sometime? there’s a new food place i want to try. »
This seems to be the norm for dating aps, on both sides it seems cause I keep having the same situation happen over and over with guys. We can’t obsess over what we said, what we didn’t say or what we could’ve said. It really has nothing to do with us is the hardest part to deal with. Can’t let it make us feel like we’re not good enough. Good luck to you in the cruel, cruel dating world! Lol
how long has it been since you’ve heard from her?
Banter was great dude. Just don’t let it go on too long. MAKE A MOVE before the chat goes stale. Texting is for arranging a date, not having the whole relationship… girls get bored quick. If you don’t make a move, another guy will.
Jumped into asking her out way too quick. Women need to feel safe with men, especially online. Next time text consistently for a day or two before asking out