Dating : Something ALWAYS comes up.

Dating : Something ALWAYS comes up.

So this is going to start out not sounding like a dating post, but my entire life I’ve had issues with people canceling on me, it started at a young age with family members, my cousins (or specifically my aunt and uncle) would often elect to go do things with their friends instead of me or my brother, my grandmother would always make excuses about her back pain or some injury she sustained, when it was later found out that she was becoming addicted to alcohol and drugs again, and would often be too lit to take or watch us. My mothers side of the family is much more reliable, but they’re in Europe, so we don’t see them too often.

Fast forward a few years, and I had a few friends that were the same way, incredibly unreliable, or they often would cancel at the last minute, my current best friend was like that too, until I finally got fed up with it and sat him down and discussed that he needs to be better at planning. He has since improved.

Now we fast forward to my dating life, I’ve had a number of girlfriends, and a number of dates, it’s not that I’m inept, or unlikable. Though I admit I’m not perfect. But it seems like on to regular of a basis I get cancelled on. I could chalk it off if it was in every once in a while thing, but it seems like on a relatively regular basis people come up with some sort of excuse, and it’s usually something that’s rather serious, sick relative, injury, death, car accident, etc. this puts me in an awkward position, maybe the people I talk to just have horrible luck, but at the same time I know in the back of my mind that some of the stuff is absolute bullshit, but it’s kind of a faux pas to call somebody out because if true it makes you look like the asshole.

Tonight was one of those moments, I’ve known this girl for years, this is not just some Internet fling, but we recently reconnected and planned on going on a date tonight, apparently her “grandfather is drunk and angry, and they are trying to calm him down” this sounds kind of crazy and over-the-top, which makes me believe it’s probably true, if she was just making something up I feel like she would’ve used something more believable. But I just think about my life, I have plenty of drama, plenty of days I don’t feel 100%, yet I have only on a handful of occasions had to cancel on people, and I’ve felt horrible about it.

I guess I don’t really know what advice I’m looking for, if any, but it’s just so irritating, and I guess I’m wondering if anyone else on here has had similar experiences, are you the one who always plans everything? And how do you feel when people cancel on you? How do you react when you think they’re full of shit, especially if they use an excuse like something serious. (Which is shitty but does happen, my dad owns a business, he’s seen them all)