Dating : Stop with the Bullhsh*t advice F[22]
I am a single 22 yr old female who’s been single for a couple of years. I hardly go on dates or have guys come after me or vice versa. I am exploring and learning to be by myself, ya know enjoying my youth, and realized I want a commitment to myself. However, I am getting kinda frustrated by this unwarranted advice such as: dress up and wear makeup no man is going to look at you, be quiet and listen, don’t make those faces, don’t say those things, go out, don’t look for them, maybe you’re not trying, and be yourself.
I work in the heat for research and when I can I dress up to the nines, and all this other advice sounds like bullshit to me like it sounds contradicting and kills my self esteem. Like I am trying to be happy and be by myself but sometimes hearing all this bullshit hurts and makes me think that whenever I’m in my dark moments that yea maybe these people are right and I will never ever get a boyfriend. I know I don’t need one, it just hurts to the point of tears, and sometimes I just wish I can be myself unapolagetically without being critized.
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*Edit in regards to my makeup or dressing up I don’t because I am outisde in 110 degree weather in the forest/desert it is not pratical for me to wear makeup or wear heels. I’m not there to impress trees, and makeup is for myself to feel good. And as for the single part I am young and exploring my tastes, but yes eventually this person does want to be in a relationship in due time
Dont listen to it and tell them to fuck off.
You’re doing the right thing doing your own thing.
All of this advice will attract a stereotypical fuckboy. Being yourself you will attract someone who likes you
Its definitely hard to not think about that stuff when your trying to focus on youself and your personal goals. Yes there are some nights I wish I had some company but you just have to stay on track. Screw all the other bullshit.
Yes whether you like it or not you need to dress attractive to get attention from the opposite sex, would you go out with a man who doesn’t put any effort in the way he looks?
So what do you want? Do you *really* just want to be by yourself?
Approach guys, if a guy funds you attractive and you make the first move it will be a 100% match.
If someone tells you that a girl might not not get much male attention if she’s generally looking like she just walked out of a sweltering jungle, that isn’t criticism. It’s not supposed to make you feel bad. It’s just realistic. Unless you’re trying to get with some hunky guy at work, I don’t know why it would matter either way.
Just get a tinder account, you’ll get thousands of matches in days. And filter out to the quality ones. Dating as a woman is simple.
So do you want guys to pursue you without makeup?