Dating : « Taking the lead »
Is this still a thing, that the expectation is for men to take the lead all the time?
Does this come down to mostly personality type?
I’ve always felt like I was too dominating if I took charge with everything.
Then I hear it’s taking charge based on the girl’s interest.
So obviously you get to know the girl and what she likes, and suggest things to do based on that. I assume taking charge is physical contact as well.
I don’t mind making the first moves and stuff, but I feel decision making should be more of a mutual effort through shared conversion. Instead of being more forceful?
Reason I’m asking is because I was told I wasn’t taking the lead enough, and that made the girl awkward she needed to make an effort in decision making. Even though I knew her interests and suggested get togethers based on that.
Communication was bad with her though, I found all this out after « breaking up », even though I asked her many times, how’s everything going, and all I got was, « I don’t know », or a really long shrug.
No issues being physically intimate with her.
Help me feel better about myself, or give me some good criticism. 🙂
I think it comes down to the girl, but I believe things like this should be discussed through conversion while together.