Dating : The many layers of calling someone a “nice guy” on reddit

Dating : The many layers of calling someone a “nice guy” on reddit

There are many possible reasons for this behavior imo.

1) The guy is actually being a classic “nice guy.” Like a girl rejected him and he told her, “You just don’t like me because I’m a nice guy. Fuck you.” Or something like that. How did we find out about it on reddit? Maybe the guy told reddit all about it? Idk. Would be pretty dumb. The classic way is the girl posts the text or something like that.

2) Toxic masculinity. Unsuccessful guys call other unsuccessful guys “nice guys” no matter what’s going on. Because they get a thrill out of it. It makes them feel good. Because that’s the kind of people they are apparently.

3) Well intentioned people use the term “nice guy” to describe, in addition to its original definition, other kinds of more or less toxic behavior that may or may not be related to the classic definition. Pretty soon the whole logic of the idea starts breaking down and you start calling a guy a “nice guy” for simply wanting a girlfriend or something that is fairly universal actually. It becomes victim blaming.

4) I feel like most older couples at some point have had the following exchange around me. The older man laughs and says, “Let me give you some advice about relationships. Don’t argue with your wife. Just let her be right. Everything is much better that way.” Then he laughs again and his wife laughs too. Idk but maybe this is just something that’s gonna be like that sometimes. A woman says, “This behavior by this guy is equivalent to him telling a girl that he’s a nice guy and deserves sex because of it.” You think to yourself, “Well that doesn’t sound quite right to me.” Then you stop and advise yourself, “I better just not say anything.” And then you move on.