Dating : Through a ton of successful dates over the past year, these are the two things women seemed most impress with! Hope it helps you guys even a little-
1.) Confidence. I don’t mean narcissism or bragging, and I also don’t mean being an extrovert and outgoing. I am introverted and a somewhat shy person but don’t find absolutely anything wrong with that. My social tendencies haven’t changed much since I was 18 (I’m 25 now) but my confidence has, and in turn dating has become insanely easier. I know it can be difficult, but don’t apologize for being quiet or different ❤️
2.) Kindness and helping them feel safe.
I get this one. All. The time.
“I’ve never felt uncomfortable around you”, “you make me feel so safe.” It’s really nice being able to provide this sort of thing, and I’m regularly told it’s a main reason for their feelings.
*Edit*
I like the way I look, but yes I am pretty average. Really don’t believe it has anything to do with my success.
Good points.
> I don’t mean narcissism or bragging
Yeah, many guys act too humble because they don’t want to act like that. But there is middle ground, they can present their positive traits and positive things in their lifes in an attractive manner.
> I’ve never felt uncomfortable around you
Being emphatetic person and actually listening and trying to understand other people has a lot to do with that
> Really don’t believe it has anything to do with my success
C’mon, physical appearance is a factor. It’s also too often an excuse for guys. Sometimes I see on street man so ugly, that I wouldn’t know how to help him. Anyway, for every one person like that, I see dozens or more of guys that could significantly boost their chances by taking care of how they looks, being more fit, dressing well, having good hairstyle or even smile more.
Very physically attractive guys play this game on easy mode though, girls disregard a lot of negative traits because of it.
This has a lot of survivor bias in it though. You don’t know how the women that you were not successful with would comment on these points.
Maybe every woman you meet feels like you are confident and you are protective.
Maybe other women found you too confident, and too protective. So if you didn’t have these traits, you might still be successful with other types of women.
Many other possibilities.
Nope… your success works for you as … well its YOU.
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I have confidence, i own a company… ive always helped people, i carry water to give to the homeless as i drive past, ive was always the one someone would call at 2am as they have no taxi money and was « the best friend ever », not once has any woman wanted to date me… like EVER…
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Theirs no « catch all » dating advice, as theirs no « catch all » DNA type either… what works for you might work for 10-20 other people, but not everyone.
I assume you aren’t hideous
What exactly do man look for or like to see when they are dating a woman!? I have never actually tried dating but in think about it… It’s good to see ur post as I personally don’t know anyone that have a positive outlook towards it.
Confidence can be faked its is created from prior success.
Yet another person posting that liking yourself and not being a dick are likeable traits like it’s an insight.
I wish I had a dollar for every time someone posts a basic aspect of being a functional person like it’s a deciding factor in dating.
No. Awful advice. Woman care about looks. “Confidence” and kindness will get you nowhere. Improving your physical appearance will.