Dating : Tinder rant.
Is it me or are girls (maybe guys too idk) on tinder just the absolute worst. even the not so attractive ones? Its like the hot ones are difficult to match because they have a ton of options, thats fine. But then even the decent looking ones or heck even not good looking somehow think they are almighty. One word responses etc zero effort to engage. I dont get it. I cant possibly be that boring. Maybe I just come off really creepy or just not exciting enough.
People who text in 1/2 word responses are usually keeping you on the back burner while they are having Multiple Conversations at one Time..Then their are People who are Literally Just Too Stupid to Make words into a Complete Sentence..
Girls get a ridiculous amount of matches, because guys right swipe everyone. Of course they don’t have to try. Like 90% of tinder dudes are retards too.
a girl on bumble just sent me an emoji as a first response. talk about lazy. unmatched immediately.
Yup.
If someone puts zero effort into their appearance, their profile, or their conversations, why would you even bother caring? Delete them and move on. I get that it’s annoying to deal with, but it’s assuredly not you being creepy or unexciting. Most people just suck.
Hypergamy
It’s easier and simpler to meet those « hot matches » in real life where there are no « angles », filters, perfect lighting or unrealistic expectations. Out of all the dates I went on from online dating, only one was significantly more attractive than her own near perfect photo’s. The other mildly to grossly ‘misrepresented themselves. The juice isn’t worth the squeeze.
When you meet women in real life (gosh, it feels weird having to say that) you get to know fairly quickly if she’s into you, or not. I enjoy feeling that instant connection and feeling drawn to a woman based on what I see and feel in that moment because something « changes » when you ‘think’ you like a girl online and the reality of that girl in person.
Those hot tinder girls are human beings, too. Seeing them in person brings that into perspective. They grocery shop. They go to clubs. Parties. Coffee shops. They’re everywhere.
Instagram models? Online, they’re like unicorns and every guy is clicking « like », being thirsty. But when I saw one with a « large following » I was told and I was like, « So what? ». There was no entourage of men following her everywhere. She was just like any other attractive girl in the venue. It’s nothing special. She would only appear special compared to most women who choose to magnify their worth through social media outlets. Tinder is no different. It’s like a big high school, but once you leave you realize their are millions of attractive women and those popular girls suddenly aren’t so popular when you see girls that look like her a 100’s of times.
Most of those girls are lonelier than you’d think who, though it appears have many options, have very few real and genuine options to choose from other then men wanting to « stick it in ’em ». If you were them, you’d be standoffish, too.
Honestly, you’re no better than the girls you feel entitled to talk to you. They see you as « every Tom, Dick and Harry », and that’s because « you are ». If you want to stand out, expect nothing from them. Stop swiping right on them. Go to local parties, festivals and events where they are very much human like you and you’ll meet a fair share of these girls on a very regular basis where you just click with them.
If you remove the fantasy aspect of dating (basically, all online dating, unless you yourself are in the top 3% of looks), you can rely on your energy and charisma to attract those same types of women in-person with none of the effort the average guy needs to date online.
But, that’s just my experience. Like most guys, you’ll most likely ignore all this and continue « shooting your shot » in the dark hoping something goes through the net because that’s just easier to do than putting on decent clothes and being a normal, social human being; except, it’s not, and it’s reflected in the very nature of your rant.
So many people just don’t understand basic conversation techniques. A large % of the guys I’ve chatted with online can’t hold a conversation. It’s painful.
That last paragraph got me. Just started to realise, myself.
I get it, Tinder is garbage. Every match I’ve had has been a hot fucking mess. It’s NOT a good dating app. It’s only there to find someone to hook up with.
That’s when you unmatch.
I bet there are guys like that on there too, and I bet girls just unmatch too.
To be fair you should blame the guys who swipe right on everyone.
It falsely reframes 3/10 women to think they’re 9/10.
Having set up fake profiles for both genders, OLD is absolutely insane.
Better staying off them and improving your own contentness.