Dating : Was leaving a note on a girl’s desk an OK move?
Background: I am a 23 year old Indian male working in IT for printers.
This just started yesterday. I had a call from a user yesterday about an issue (I could tell she was around my age from her voice). I drive over to her building which is just a little down the street. I looked for her when I walked in and we both looked at each other and realized we’re both Indian and around the same age (our workplace mostly has older white people).
I asked her about the printer and where it was, she showed it to me and asked if I needed her to stick around, etc. To me, she sounded a little nervous, didn’t keep eye contact, touched her hair a little, asking me if I needed any extra help, etc.
The issue was the printer path had the old server name so all I had to do was print out a new label and leave it there. I called today to get the serial number for the device and called the girl again. I could tell she wasn’t that tech savvy but she was more than willing to try and help. I thought I would say something to her today when I went over. Unfortunately, most of the staff there had a meeting including her.
So after I finished my work, I decided to leave a note on her desk. The note read « Hi it’s [Name] the printer guy, I think you’re pretty cute. Text me @ [Phone Number] if you wanna kick it »
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Did I fuck up? Was a note like that a stupid idea? My handwriting wasn’t the best but it was legible, could that be a turn off at all? Obviously tons of thoughts are running through my head, could use some outside perspective
Do you work for the same employer or is she a client?
Either way, yeah, that note was way too forward from that interaction you guys had and could’ve easily made her uncomfortable.
To me this all sounds ok, mostly as she the same nationality, however others will tell you it can be taking as harrasment as thats what happens in todays culture.
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As with most « guidlines » they favour the fortunate, if you are 10/10 on looks the worse will be she is happy and will tell all her friends she was hit on but yout not her type. If your above a 6/10 it might just be washed off as it was a nice thing to do, if your lower you could land in HR.
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No good deed goes unpunished, especially if your ugly. The irony here is the fact you need to do this, is likely the reason you should not do it.