Dating : We make time for those important to us, for others we make excuses
So I was friend with this girl for a year. We’d text and joke just as friends. So summer starts and I’m trying to make plans for us to see a movie, each time she had an excuse and I’m like ok, we can try some other time. 3rd time I ask comes around and she’s coming back from a trip but says she’ll let me. But when the day finally comes she goes ghost, I even send a snap and she leaves me on open. Even though it bothers me I say nothing which I know is wrong on my part, she snaps me a couple days later and we joke about my story, then nothing for a like a week. I see she’s hanging out with a friend then the next day she snaps me her at the beach. Idk I know it might be wrong but it just really bothered me. I left her on open and we didn’t speak for 3 weeks and I kinda realized that I was the only one trying and if she was truly interested she would have tried to reschedule or initiate contact or something. I unadded her and saw she did the same thing. it just really bothers me that we talked for so long but out of the whole summer I wasn’t worth 3 hours of her time. I know kinda long but had to vent.
You’re exactly right. If someone actually wants to hang out, they won’t make excuses. It’s really as simple as that
She wasnt really a friend
All you can do is make the offer and if theyre no interested just either be friends or move on. Alot of times people wont sit down and tell you their honest lack of feelings, its really tough to do. You can only do so much so dont beat yourself up that it didnt work. Sometimes it just isnt right. main thing is that you have respect for yourself. That other person isnt worth sacrificing that. Ive been thru a long hard life and I can tell you that all the women I loved and lusted after that I thought I couldnt live without? They’re not around and I didnt die over any of them and I barely remember most.
We attach on people and we want em and need em. Try to avoid that. instead try and share someone’s time. they would also be sharing your time. If it doesnt work just keep going. Your life, the time that you are given, and no one knows how much they will get….your Life is too short to worry about such things. Didnt quite work? ok, keep moving, just dont make someone else your focus in Life. try not to give them the power to upset you too much. You’re right. people either waste your time or they help you spend it. This is YOUR life so spend it well and dont be shy to be selfish with your time. I know you’re upset, hurt, been there many times. Its hard not to be buts is never worth it. Take care and look for someone who aprreciates ya.
When you are really keen on someone you will drop everything to make time.
Same as a friend of mine, we talk from time to time but if I initiated only, she doesn’t initiate what so ever so yeah bye bye.
I didn’t deleted her contact or blocked her, I still talk to her actually but just occassionly (birth day for example).
I don’t count her as a friend but more like an acquaintance or a co-worker.
She not interested in you. Just accept it already and move on.
So even if he is in the medical field he could still make time? He used the job card, which I understand. But I feel like one could make time right OP? Granted he does live about 1100 miles away.
Did any of her excuses make sense? Work? Family issues?
Yo… this is facts.
you were her pen pal you never once mentioned how you hung out… hate to break it to ya but it prolly never was gonna happen
You’re not missing much op, the people we’re interested in are just as flawed as the next person is, maybe more. Put it into perspective, if you say
“This flawed individual is not interested in me”
then would you still be annoyed by the situation?
Wahhhhhh why won’t she Snap me baaaaacccckkkk????? I’m gonna « unadd » her on Snap…that will show her!!!!
That’s honestly how you sound dude. And why can’t you be honest and just say this is a girl who friend zoned you but that you still like? If she was just a friend, it wouldn’t matter if you can’t lock her down for the movies.