Dating : Weird feeling
I need help identifying what I’m feeling right now. I’m 23F dating 28M for about 7months. Due to certain events, I had to move into his house for the summer and I will be moving an hour away for graduate school come august.
I have this weird feeling. I don’t know what it is. Best I can do is describe it. It’s this feeling of not necessarily desiring as much to cuddle every night. I want to be close to him but not on top of him. This could very well be due to the heat of 80F at night. But, I’m working to identify if this is just the ebbs and flows of a long term relationship. I think I could potentially be feeling security and safety to not feel the need to be with him all the time or up his ass 24/7. It feels nice because I’m able to take a step away from the relationship and know that it’s going to be there when i get back.
I guess this is my first relationship where I’ve felt this which I think it could be security and safety? At first it was alarming because I was like, “wait, do I still like this guy still?” And yes, of course I do. It’s just such a weird feeling, probs bc this is my first. Can anyone relate?
I could also just be feeling nerves of moving out of my comfortable and secure situation right now. I’m really going to miss living here, with him.
Or maybe it could be needing to add in a fun date night to focus on us (we haven’t had one in a minute) or maybe some more solitude to generate more love on my own to bring back to the relationship.
It could be a combo! I have no idea. Whatever I’m feeling, it’s weird and it’s new.
Don’t screw it up is all I’ll say. Seems you got a patient guy who’s willing to be understanding. Hard to come by these days. You seem kinda intimidated by this “security and safety”.
I mean, speaking from experience, cuddle swamp sweat is blegh. idk, sounds pretty positive that you’re able to feel secure without being attached at the hip. Seems like a good sign to me.