Dating : What do I do when a girl actually likes me back, but likes me for being a good person? I’m so confused.
Hello. This will probably sound odd, but I(25M) finally have a girl(22F) that likes me back. I was thinking she liked me because of what I do for fun, but she admitted she liked me because I’m a good person. I got confused, and told her give me 5 days to think about it (she agreed to).
If the one thing I learned, being a decent human shouldn’t a thing to date someone for. From every dating forum to subreddit, people always say you should be a decent human being in general and don’t be fake kind to get in a woman’s pants. That’s why « nice » guys aren’t actually nice.
Yet this girl admitted to liking me for being a good person. I really don’t know what to do at all. I’m genuinely wholesome, and my friends can vouch for that. Your supposed to be a good person in general, not just for dating.
I really don’t know what to do. I’m glad a girl likes me, but she likes me for something the internet taught me about. You just always be a decent human being. I’m not that interesting I just read books, play games, and help people around my neighborhood willingly.
TL;DR-A girl actually likes me for being a decent human being, and i literally don’t know what to do about that.
Character is the best reason to pursue a relationship with someone.
Hobbies don’t matter, those are for friends, hobbies matter more. Hobbies are fluid typically, and you’ll develop new ones together.
Looks dont matter that much, if she gave you the time of day you hit the bar there. Sex appeal is easily developed by how you interact, by being confident, pick her up and pin her on a wall, smack her ass in the kitchen, be a savage and meet her needs, keep flirting and create sexual tension excitement.
It doesn’t mean she doesn’t find you appealing in other ways but character compliments are the highest form of flattery.
Being a good person *SHOULD* be the bare minimum, but unfortunately a large portion of people fail to hit even that goal, so sometimes being a good person is enough. This isn’t a problem, unless you make it one. It just means she likes the person you are.
That likely means that she has been in at least one bad relarionship. Not that it takes anything away from you, but that kind of thing is super attractive if you’ve been treated badly. I know that from my own experiences, so take it with a grain of salt. A successful relationship will take more than having the fact she likes you for being a good person. I feel like you know that, so proceed cautiously, as she may have picked up behaviors from her abusers/bad examples that could harm you.
She’s really young, this is the preferred age for getting out of her you know what phase.