Dating : What do women look for in dating sites?
So going to almost 2 years actively being in dating sites, and in all 2 years and numerous messages which are only left on read I’ve only gotten 5 replies which 3 are just bots and the other 2 only said I’m not what they’re looking for.
I’m starting to feel like dating sites are just scams for men to pay and keep paying since we’ll spend days messaging girls only to get no replies. Kind of starting to feel bad about myself.
I don’t know if it’s just the way I try to initiate a conversation or just the way I look (kind of starting to feel i’m hideous) but I sometimes look at myself and well I’m not the ugliest nor the most attractive, I could loose some weight for improvement, I’m a nice guy, educated, good job, have a good heart and intentions, so why is it so hard to get a reply? What do women look for on dating sites? what kind of messages attract their attention?
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And just for curiosity, do any guys get bombarded with messages???
Might be a good idea to go on the tinder or other dTing app sub to ask for suggestions on your profile.
What a girl looks for is going to differ a little bit. Personally I look for a guy that has some common interests. I like to see some humour in the bio, if that’s the guy’s personality. I have found a number of guys don’t know how to take good photos, so that could be a problem too.
Dating apps are almost entirely visual. You really have to put your absolute best foot forward and make sure you’re looking at the very top of your game in your photos, especially your very first photo. A lot of people swipe through the apps at lightning speed and might spend 1, maybe 2, seconds looking at your profile before swiping right or left. If your first picture doesn’t immediately grab them, it doesn’t matter what the rest of your photos look like because they probably won’t get to them, and if that first photo is bad your bio won’t even be read.
Do not bother paying for apps unless you really have money to blow, and even then there is absolutely no guarantee.
Some guys do get bombarded with messages, yes.
Try this: grab a picture of a random hot guy and use it as your profile pics. Have no write-up at all. Hell, have a write-up that’s one sentence long with several spelling mistakes.
Then have pictures of yourself with a kick-ass write-up.
You’ll see how much they care about personality.
I don’t think I’m the best looking, deranged women have called me attractive. I get a lot of messages but I wouldn’t say bombarded. It’s not hard to get a reply, at least.