Dating : What ‘lack of connection/chemistry’ really means
Most of the time, it means they are not physically attracted to you. Here’s some posts stating this:
[https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/6xjr3c/dating_a_wonderful_person_but_feeling_no_chemistry/](https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/6xjr3c/dating_a_wonderful_person_but_feeling_no_chemistry/)
Title: Dating a wonderful person but feeling **no chemistry**
Quote: Before we kissed, I was dreading it because I knew **I just didn’t feel** **strong physical attraction to him**
[https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/3esmes/how_to_tell_a_guy_i_feel_no_chemistry_for_him/](https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/3esmes/how_to_tell_a_guy_i_feel_no_chemistry_for_him/)
Title: How to tell a guy I feel **no chemistry** for him?
Quote: I need advice on whether/how to tell a guy that **I’m not attracted to him.**
[https://www.reddit.com/r/OkCupid/comments/5virjg/going_on_a_lot_of_dates_not_feeling_a_connection/](https://www.reddit.com/r/OkCupid/comments/5virjg/going_on_a_lot_of_dates_not_feeling_a_connection/)
Title: Going on a lot of dates, **not feeling a connection**. Is this normal, or should I be choosing people better
Quote: All of them, I’ve been immediately put off by the person within a few minutes of meeting them. Not anything terrible, just I know **I could never be attracted to them**
I think it’s just people often misuse the word chemistry. I matched with a girl online during the last year and we flirted for a bit. I found her quite physically attractive and she seemed to find me attractive from her remarks. However, when we weren’t flirting, the conversations just kinda became stale and as much as we were physically attracted to each other, I think we both knew that there just wasn’t chemistry. It’s happened to me a few times with other people years earlier as well.
It can mean that. However when I say it, that isn’t what it means. Also, the word « attractive » can mean a lot of different things. You could definitely say that you « just aren’t attracted » to someone even if you find them to be visually attractive because of other things that factor into attraction – including chemistry, personality, facial expressions, feelings, etc.
that’s not advice;
advice would be: move on to someone good who’s attracted to you
No, it just means there wasn’t chemistry. And those posts aren’t even admitting what you’re saying. There are plenty of hot girls I have no interest in getting to know because we have literally nothing in common and I know we won’t vibe. You can just feel it.
Chemistry is more than physical attraction.
Sometimes you can be attracted to someone you see but once you’re actually with them one on one the conversation is awkward, you don’t have similar interests, or sense of humor. This happens all the time with online dating.
A person sees a photo/profile of someone they feel is attractive but *in person* there’s no sparks. Odd or quirky behavior and revealing something shocking or distasteful while on the date can also be a turnoff as well.
They agreed to meet the person because *they were* attracted to them.
It doesn’t matter what it « means ».
A no is a no, a yes is a yes.
Yeah, people often say « chemistry » when they mean attraction. Usually its to avoid hurting their feelings.
But sometimes « chemistry » means that your personalities don’t mesh well.
I just cancelled a second date with a gorgeous woman today, because it didn’t feel like we had good chemistry. We slept together on the first date and physically she is perfect, so it definitely isn’t an attraction thing.
How to take in the fact that with a person everything works out, but they are just reluctant to not to work out a relationship with you because they aren’t attracted to you physically.
Unless there is deception in photos or profile, I think the physical aspect of no chemistry takes a backseat to nothing to talk about or general personality inter-vibe.
You simply should have spoken up and talked to me fairly instead of destroying my life. Because your unable to simply say you love black men and your only attracted to them. For that, your choice is to destroy my life and jail me. IS THAT WHAT THE FUCK YOUR SAYING TO ME? I hope they fucking charge you both with crimes for telling provable lies that destroyed my life. F Y
Chemistry is another word for attraction.
Attraction is more than physical looks though. Not feeling chemistry with someone can be due to clashing personalities, not having enough in common, feeling like you just don’t have a connection or a spark with someone, even differences in the bedroom.
I’ve felt initially attracted to someone’s looks, but felt no chemistry (attraction) to them in other ways.
Sometimes you just don’t click with someone, despite how physically attractive you think they are.
Presumably, you’re past the initial attraction, they swiped right… So if you’re hearing this it’s likely you said or did something off-putting during the date or maybe you seemed to lack charisma. In any case, always remember if someone says that to you, it’s THEIR LOSS.