Dating : What matters most to women— personality, wealth, looks, height or penis size?
I’ve been thinking about this question for several weeks now, have asked several women on Reddit as well but I still can’t quite come up with a definitive answer. I guess if I had to, I would blindly rank the importance as
Looks/Personality tied for 1st (both important for initial attraction)
Penis size 2nd (must not be less than avg)
Wealth 3rd (obvious reasons)
Height 4th (taller than said woman?)
maybe the last 3 are interchangeable tho. What do you guys think?
I’m always curious to hear why guys think dick size is so important. It’s totally how you use it, how you treat me, how willing you are to make me happy in bed. You could be super inexperienced and have a below avg, but if you’re willing to do more than stick it in and say you’re a sex god, then you’re all good in my (and lots of other women) opinion. Make me laugh, have similar values to me, and mutually make each other happy is a lot more important than sex. Sex can be taught, and we can learn what makes each other happy regardless of dick size.
Different girls will find different things important. Ranking them in order of importance is stupid, because everyone has some degree of personality, height, wealth, looks and penis size. The key is to have a sufficient level in all 5 to meet her particular set of desires.
Penis size is the least important though. Unless you have an actual micropenis, most girls care less than you think. For most girls, actual penetration is responsible for maybe 5% of their total pleasure from sex. You’d be surprised how much you can achieve with the right atmosphere and triggering their psychological turn-ons, especially combined with oral and hands.
Different women want different things. Personally, I’m below average penis size, and my partners have always been big fans of what I bring to the table.
Well as a well endowed virgin I can assure you, penis size is completely irrelevant. It’s not like girls know how big it is when they reject me.
Personality is below all of those other things.
Making a list of “this is what women like most” in such a so-so manner, dismisses the complicated thought process the woman has, when she picks a man to spend the rest of her life with.
True, there are factors that are undeniably important, as they are placed so deep in our biology that it is hard to ignore, such as: “Can he protect me and my children?” and “is he, in fact, human?” and of course my all-time favorite “how likely is he to be a violent axe murderer and, if he is, can I overpower him if need be?”.
Once the woman has considered these important factors, she will continue with her considerations. “If it came to it, would I be able to out-fart him?” and “Will my family approve of his tattooed arms and neck?”
It is important to note, that in many cultures it is expected that the boyfriend will have a one-to-one fist fight with the woman’s father or brother – and so the woman will also need to consider: “can he defeat my father to a point, where the battle will be almost a tie but still a certain ‘win’ for my man?” Or in some cultures “will he be defeated by my father but still fight convincingly well, so that my family will not send us into shameful exile?”
Finally, once these considerations are out of the way, the woman can consider the more “obvious” points, such as:
“Is he too hairy? Can I close my eyes and picture George Clooney when I kiss him?” And of course, the most important: “Will he listen to me when I speak angrily, or just nod and wave me off with a ‘whatever you say, honey’?”
Once these (very important) considerations have been made, the woman will often go to the council of friends and casually bring up the proposed man to hear what the other females think of him. Here it will, indeed, be discussed if he is financially stable, if he has bad sexual or emotional reputation and – most importantly – it will be discussed if he has the adequate amount of hair on his head.
Once this process is complete, the woman will find that this whole process has made the man seem rather dull. And so she will often go get her nails done, buy herself some nice new clothes and reach the conclusion that men simply aren’t worth all that trouble.
we do not have a collective opinion on such things
lmao what you think penis size is any real matter? unless your dick is as tiny as an ant it should do the job just fine as long as the rest works well
21F here. I’d say looks is what initially attracts me, but their personality is what makes or breaks it for me. An initially attractive guy can become less attractive to me if their personality is bad, same as an initially less attractive guy can become much more attractive with a good personality. Of the two, I’d choose the latter.
An average penis size is good, not really too important if it’s not too far off. Same with height if it’s not too far above or below my height. Wealth is not important at all.
I’d say an average combination of everything is probably the most attractive, as I wouldn’t date with anyone who is only good looking or only has a massive dick, etc.
To me what matters most is personality. Couldn’t be with a crappy rude arrogant guy no matter how much he makes or how handsome he is. I must like him as a person first in order for us to get along. Then wealth. I don’t want someone who impulsively buys things and wastes money but someone that can manage their personal finances and is responsible. Then looks (personally I couple height with looks). Lastly, penis size.
Personality, and wealth.
Looks are always number one, you cannot see someone’s personality but you can see if they’re ugly as fuck. 2 is personality now that she thinks you’re super hot if you have a bad attitude will determine if she stays now you’ve probably already smashed because you only need looks to have sex with women. But if you want to stay with her then personality comes into it after. 3 is penis size if you’re smaller than 6 inches you might as well not even try because she will just laugh and make fun of you. You will give her and her gfs comedic content for months, and it’ll just get worse and you’ll never have sex with her and if you do it’s completely a pity fuck. Height and money is interchangeable because some women aren’t big spenders and others want Gucci this Gucci that, and height = taller than her. So if she’s 5”3 you can be 5”6 and be golden. Being over 6 foot doesn’t do shit for you unless you’re good looking. Trust me I’m 6”4 but ugly as fuck and I’ve never gotten a single comment about my height.
I don’t know why you asking this. You already know women would say the all opposite just to make them look different.
The reality is simple personality and penis size are the last.
Looks matter the most. Due to hypergamy. If you aren’t good looking enough they won’t give you the chance to express your personality and also show them your penis size.
That’s simple.
I’m a man by the way but it’s because I get a lot of rejection (8 and I’m 21) that now I know what women matter the most.
Depends on the woman. We aren’t all alike.
Something makes me feel like you don’t have any of the four… You should relax and stop wasting time making silly lists…
For me, none of the above. I married the guy who could make me laugh. Yes the other things can be of some importance, but I’m guessing you are a guy, because women don’t rank men like that. With women, we listen to our emotions more than anything and when I’m having a bad day, I have a man who will be there to listen to me and hold me, but will also do a fun little sexy dance (more funny than sexy but oh how I love to see his body move like that) just to get me to smile.
Looks fade, humour stays.
Height and looks is the most important
Depends whether you’re talking about sex, marriage, or dating.
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Most women looking for sex only mostly focus on penis size and height the most; it’s because that’s the ideal Western male features. Kind of like how the ideal Western female feature is shorter (not super tall) with larger breasts. And White.
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Women who look for long-term partners primarily focus on wealth/stability alongside personality for long-term compatibility.
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Race is the biggest factor in terms of looks. If you’re not the right skin color, you might as well be a different creature altogether even if you have a good personality and physical features.
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Overall, it’s situational depending on the culture and country you’re talking about, and the group of women you’re talking about.
How often have you actually been in bed with a girl and have her walk out because your dick is too small?
My experience: looks>penis size>height>personality >wealth.
I live in a large, west coast US city, so women tend to have money.
The problem is that you’re trying to find a definitive answer. The only person’s answers that matter are the one you’re going to have a relationship with. I know you’re not going to listen at all and still want to unlock the secret to us women or whatever.
For me, I never, ever experienced attraction to anyone. Seriously. Zero interest in anyone until I was 20. I was playing an MMORPG and made a bunch of friends there. One of those friends became my best friend and we started having feelings for each other. We had no idea what each other looked like, besides our game avatars of course. But still, we had feelings for each other. I was the one who broached the topic and confessed by the way.
I fell for him solely on the basis of his personality alone. That’s what matters most to me. And physical attraction automatically, easily, and naturally followed with such strong emotional attraction. To this day, he is the only person I am attracted to in any regard. I have no eyes for anyone else.
He has an above average penis. He’s way above average in height. Like, way above average. Significantly above average in wealth too.
But NONE of those things were things I knew about him in our months of platonic friendship and awkward, but fondly looked back on, early relationship. None of those things factored at all into how I felt about him. And none of those things factor at all into how I feel about him now. He could go from 6’10 to 4’10 and I’d want to spend the rest of my life with him as much as I do now. Above average penis to micropenis, same deal. How shallow and daft men must be to think penis size is a panty dropper! But then again, I never had interest in fucking or sleeping around. Sex is something I wanted and have with someone who dearly loves me and who I dearly love back. It’s a way of expressing affection, not a means to achieving orgasm. And of course, even if he fell into financial ruin with his businesses and got in debt, I’d want to stay by his side, just stay together and rebuild our stable life.
He’s a keeper. People who are so secure in themselves and being single, who treat everyone whether they’re male or female with the same respect and politeness, who are genuinely nice guys who aren’t pushy and don’t have ulterior motives in being your friend. Those are so very rare. I still feel incredibly fortunate, even three years later, to have found him.
You’re not going to get one collective answer. Depends on the woman.
For me personally, looks and personality can kind of interchange. I may not immediately be physically attracted to someone based on their looks, but I’ve had plenty of instances where personality overrode that as I got to know them better. I would say I value education over wealth, as I’m financially capable of taking care of myself. Height would maybe come next, although I tend to that in with looks. And last is penis size, although I have a preference for average size.
I won’t ever make fun of someone who’s below average, but I can’t say I would find it immediately attractive either.
1. Looks (initial physical/sexual attraction)/height – I mean the difference between a partner and a friend is that you want to have sex with one of them and not the other. Height would be somewhat equal with looks? It’s the total package that you initially see.
2. Personality (what keeps you interested) – sometimes this can surpass looks if he is self-confident and charismatic. Guys who just own what they have/work with what they have, are attractive.
3. Wealth – just want to know that you have your life together. Don’t care how much you make as long as you’re independent and not financially stressed.
4. Penis size – it just depends on how you use it. A woman can only feel up to 3 inches anyways unless she likes the feeling of it pounding against her cervix (which is often painful). Plus, there are other ways to please a woman (i.e., great oral skills, and being in tuned to what she responds to)
1. Physically/height
2. Personality
3. Wealth
4. Size
Looks initially but they’re not the most important thing. Personality trumps looks after the first meeting.
wealth is number 1 for sure.
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So from reading this, I’ve come to the conclusion that as personality is the most important for most girls.
I must have a terrible personality because no girls pay me any attention. I seem to scare them off.
Because I don’t have the looks, pee pee size or wealth and now I’ll add personality. I’m now an empty box of a person.
1- Personality/Appearance
2- Height (about my height, give or take an inch)
don’t care- Penis size, Wealth (TBH any girl who cares about these two isn’t good relationship material)