Dating : Whats the best way to find a relationship/socialize and meet new people without going to clubs or bars. Especially because I’m only 19.
Okay so, I’m 19[M] and have never really had a relationship before and was told the best way to find that ‘someone’ was to socialize and go out somewhere. Which is probably true because online dating f*cking sucks. They were mainly talking about clubs and bars, well I’m 19 and I cant exactly go into a bar and clubs are not my thing (I’m not really a party person and don’t exactly ‘go out’, but I’m also not a damn hermit, I’m 5’8”, average build, I am pretty white though, I’ll admit it. Idc though, I don’t come from a heritage of Pacific Islanders.) And I’m 99% sure meeting someone at a club or bar is not someone I would want to have a relationship with. I’m not saying that they are bad but you get the idea… Basically my question is how can I and where can I socialize with people without going to a bar or club?
Being white is perfect, be proud of yourself! I’m the same like you as in; i don’t like going out to clubs and bars either. I do try online dating and it is not easy because it’s quite superficial but over time, with patience, you do get to know people! I can also suggest you to maybe enter in a club of team, as in hibby wise, something that interests you like a sports club or card club or whatever. You always make friends in asociations! Also, you might not like clubs but what about the beach or pool? Try such things. What about friends from friends? There are many ways, but you need patience and a bit of luck.
>I am pretty white though, I’ll admit it. Idc though, I don’t come from a heritage of Pacific Islanders.)
What? lol Take it from a mixed Asian guy, its ok to be white.
>Basically my question is how can I and where can I socialize with people without going to a bar or club?
Figure out what you like. Do you have passions? Climbing? Cooking? Travelling? Building rockets? Whatever it is, there’s probably a bunch of people that are also interested in that. Figure out where those people are.
Example: my ex like 10 years ago broke up with me, I was devastated. I needed something to get my mind off of the break up. Learned how to DJ and produce some music. From nothing. I never took classes or anything, just decided to dive in and figure shit out…if only to keep my mind occupied. I came out the other end with some skills and a new hobby. I ended up meeting a ton of new people through that and things associated with it. DJing is a club thing, but I met a lot of people that were like me…she loved music but not really in a club setting. Thats probably the type of person you want to find.