Dating : What’s the point in online dating?
I keep trying to meet people online, I have Tinder and Hinge, as great as they are in theory finding someone that actually wants a relationship seems impossible. Everyone is there for friends with benefits and I’m really not into that, or eventually after talking to people they just get distant and stop talking.
But the massively issue I have is, I don’t understand how I could meet someone, I’m into gaming and guys love girls who play video games, but the guys I talk to are too far away or there’s other factors that get in the way. I’d love to go to a gaming convention, but in the UK there’s not a lot and they’re expensive to travel to.
Tl;dr online dating isn’t really dating. I can’t find anyone with similar interests to me.
Well online dating is 100% based on looks. The goal is to fuck attractive people while skipping the whole dating process. You can’t learn about a person on a digital wall of text and images.
Honestly.. there are so many variables in this.
– the kind of guys you’re attracting
– the kind of guys who use online dating apps
– the energy/intention you’re giving off in your profile
– your attachment style (which influences not only who you are attracted to, but also how you interact with them)
– too many options (too many conversations going on at once)
– not being sure of what it is you want
These are just a few. I can match with 10 guys in a few hours, and I may not be compatible with any of them. The conversation doesn’t flow, it’s clear they only want one thing, their grammar is so bad that I have to read everything 2-3 times in order to make sense of something they’ve said..
But also.. most people don’t use dating apps with the intention of finding a boyfriend or girlfriend. It doesn’t feel natural. You probably wouldn’t walk into a bar and be like « oh hey guy I’ve just met, would you like to be my boyfriend? ».
Most guys I’ve spoken to are open to more, in the right situation. They’re hoping to meet someone, feel that spark, get to know them and see what happens. If it doesn’t go anywhere, well that’s ok too.. they got a few months of sex out of it. Win win.
Of course, there are the fuckboys who plan on making you their Wednesday nighter, in a week full of other women.. but if you’re honest with yourself, usually you can see them coming a mile off. If you can’t? I’d say you should work a little on self-love and strengthening your intuition 🙂
Hmm honestly it’s usually the guys who can’t find a girl whose into gaming. Perhaps if you put a photo of you gaming on tinder and put looking for a serious relationship in your profile you will have better luck?
Online dating works if you are at least an 8, white, and 6ft tall