Dating : Not into texting?
I’ve been on three dates with this guy and I usually don’t hear from him at all between dates except to plan a date. It’s starting to make me nervous that he doesn’t like me. More specifically, we went on an amazing date On Sunday and he texted me to say we should do something again this week. We picked a day and I sent him some dumb text about something I was trying to explain during our last date and he responded briefly but, I haven’t heard from him since. I don’t know what time we’re meeting for this date at all. To be fair, the last two dates I have had to ask him to clarify the time we’re meeting the day before. I can’t tell if he’s just not a great texter or if he isn’t that into me. I usually have guys texting me at least once a day, but this guy doesn’t. That being said, this guy sees me more often than the guys I’ve dated previously. I feel so out of my element and I’m not sure what to do. Is it most likely that he isn’t into texting or that he’s not interested? I’m so confused because in person he gives off such warm vibes and seems super interested in me, but I don’t hear from him for days at a time. I’ve never had this happen, so I have no idea how to handle it.
Well part of the appeal might be that he’s not super texty. Maybe its creating a sense of mystery and anticipation.
However, I’ve never met a guy who wouldnt text somebody they really wanted. I know plenty of guys who tell me they suck at texting…then I see them texting all fucking night. If anybody says they « suck at texting, » thats bullshit. They suck at putting in effort to text.
As soon as a guy meets some hot girl, he’s a texting machine. So guys who claim they just dont text, GTFOH. If motivated, people will do anything.
Of course, some guys will never text much no matter who it is. I think its rare, but those guys are out there. I think itll take time to understand him, are you willing to put in the time?
Maybe just adapt your style to his, and see how it goes. Maybe itll be better with less contact? Then you focus on when you actually do meet up. It could go either way, but generally speaking, I only know guys to put in effort into anything (yoga etc.) if it helps them get the girl. Dunno if this is that, but its always a possibility.
Either he is not into texting or not into you. You need to figure out which one.
What matters is how he’s spending time with you in person and if he’s willing to find time from his busy life to see you – not texting. I for one is not a fan of texting in dating, unless I have a reason to text (like setting dates etc) I don’t text – maybe just once every few days to surprise her with a sweet good day text. Texting excessively kills attraction.
Why don’t you just ask him if he is or isn’t into texting?? That will save you a lot of inner turmoil. I know its quite intimidating to blatantly ask someone that while dating but you’ll have been on a few dates which have been good. You’ll clearly have a good thing going. Also, its my personal experience that sometimes just asking a question leads to more honest conversations.
he is busy texting others. how hard is that to comprehend?