Dating : Where should I go from here?
So after having 3 dates with a girl. Going really well so far, third date we cooked together, drank some wine and had sex. She cooked breakfast for me in the morning and wanted to hang out for the day. She kept telling me how she never gets boys like me and how she tells all of her friends about me. She sent me a text yesterday and we chatted into the night.
My confusion comes now from reading different advice online. Clearly things are ramping up and we are getting closer. Should I try to stay in contact with her daily? We already have another date organized but surely it would be weird to not communicate all week? Should I call her instead maybe?
Also when should I have the conversation about exclusivity with her? We spoke a bit about it on the night but we were quite drunk lol.
What do you want to do? There aren’t rules and different people will want different levels of communication.
I think it’s important to know what she’s looking for. If she’s saying that she’s telling her friends about you, things like that, she’s definitely into you. I also have no idea how old you are or what your previous relationship history is, so it’s hard to say. Personally, it took 4 months for my current boyfriend and I to consider ourselves “exclusive” even though we had texted every day and been to 4 countries together. It wasn’t until I met his family that he wanted to put a title on it.
Text her mid-day maybe, ask how her day is going. But also wait for her to text first so she has the opportunity to reach out herself. At the next date, really try to get to know her. Not just some superficial shit. Google some questions to ask on a date and allow her to ask questions about you as well. Ask about her family, her aspirations, stuff like that. There’s more to dating than just liking the same music and tv shows.
That’s just some advice I have. I’m young so I probably can’t help much. Be yourself and wait for things to come together naturally. Don’t overthink it.
>Should I try to stay in contact with her daily? We already have another date organized but surely it would be weird to not communicate all week?
Try the daily communication & see it she receives it well. It depends on her level of communication needs. For me I’m low key needy & is always unsure of myself so I require more communication. Not instant but at least a few times a day & a few days out the week. Every person is different & for sure bring it up. If she’s expecting more communication & your style is sparse communication even though you’re very interested she needs to know that so she’s not second guessing herself.
>Should I call her instead maybe?
Doesnt hurt to try. I usually ask via text first just to make sure I’m not interrupting anything.
>Also when should I have the conversation about exclusivity with her?
Bring it up whenever it seems right. You don’t have to exactly go straight into « should we become exclusive? » but maybe just bring up your feelings for her if they feel that intense & get hers as well then go from there.
Good luck.