Dating : Why do breakups have to hurt so damn bad??
I’ve recently broken things off w my gf (my first gay relationship) after 8 months as I was feeling a bit suffocated in the relationship and couldn’t keep up with the time commitment, wanted to be more involved in community and was feeling the urge to want less bounds and our arguments were taking more energy than I felt worth it. We decided to end it civilly but we both love and care about each other soo much. We’re still friends and plan on potentially “easing back into things” if life allows. I feel much freer no longer being in the bounds of a relationship, but I miss her terribly…Why does this have to suck so badly??
It can take time apart to realise how much you love someone by missing them so much. I know that’s super cheesy but I feel like that’s exactly what’s happening in your situation. Now that you’ve taken some time apart, you can try to figure out the things that went wrong or made you feel “suffocated”. Try talking to her about it too, she’s not only part of the relationship but she’s also your best friend.
Good luck 🙂