Dating : Why is she doing this to me?
I recently dated this girl for 3 months. I was totally smitten with her from the get go. She then abruplty dumped me for somebody else. I was totally shattered, I’ve had long term relationships end, but nothing came close to the pain of this one.
After about 2 months she contacted me saying that she regretted what had happened. Other guy had turned out to be an asshole. We met up and she confessed that she’d had a very hard upbringing, and wanted to get herself sorted mentally before entering a relationship. She said we should be friends and hang out in the meantime though, but that she definitely saw as being in a serious relationship in the future. She emphasized that she wasn’t gonna date while getting herself sorted. I believed her and agreed.
We hung out twice and then she started seeming sorta distant, exactly like she did the first time, taking ages to respond and providing bare minimum responses. Then my mate told me he saw her on tinder, I realised she’d added a dude from tinder on her fb, and he was commenting on all her posts. We haven’t hung out in two weeks, she insists she’s super busy with uni, and has already flaked on a dinner date we had planned.
How do I proceed with this? I find it really difficult to accept that after everything she’s already done to me, she’d be perfectly fine just stringing me along while she’s pursues other people. This limbo friend zone is giving me serious anxiety. My logical side tells me that she’s messing with me, but my heart still wants her badly. What should I do? Has anyone been through something like this before?
Dude it sounds like you need to just get her out of your life. It’s not fair on you when she says she wants something in the future so you put your life on hold just in case she wants you back. Sounds like she’s keeping you as just an option and remember she left you once before so it’s not surprising she’s acting like this now. She probably knows she can do what she wants and you will be there if it doesn’t work out. You need someone who’s going to make you a priority not an option.
Oh dude, leave her as soon as you can. Learnt this the hard way. You are her backup/safe option for her ego. Once you become a second option, you can never be the first option without going through a lot of mental torture.
It’s just not worth it. All the best
Oh they always do that shit. You’re close, another guy comes along, she follows him, no contact, guy falls through, she comes right back to you but as a friend this time and uses you as a crutch until she gets another guy. Rinse and repeat.
Stop contacting her and move on. Shes obviously dishonest.
Get her out of your life asap. I speak from experience. Don’t reply, cut all contact. Trust me you will be much better off without this toxicity in your life.
I’ve know some girls to do this. They just want to know someone is there as a shoulder to lean on. It’s a toxic dynamic and she’s using you emotionally. Also she sounds immature, doesn’t know what she wants, and is generally inconsiderate.
She sounds lame
Don’t know. Didn’t ask- people like this lady (or in my case, that lady) never tell the truth. I broke up and left for good.
You don’t deserve someone like that. Don’t contact that person anymore ’cause she’s not worth of your time and effort.