Dating : Will I be able to date in college?
I’m 5,4 and kinda skinny, I’m not the best looking either. I’m maybe a 6/10. I’ve been told I look like a young Toby Maguire so imagine that I guess. I know personality is the main thing and I feel like I have a great one but when it comes to genetics I didn’t win the lottery.
I’d like to date someone in college (I’m a senior in high school this year) I just worry that I won’t be able to do it. I’ve tried talking to girls in school but it never goes anywhere or I just get ghosted. I consider myself to be a pretty well-rounded individual but women just don’t seem to be interested. I fear that once I get to college this pattern will continue. I know that dating inst the most important thing in life but It would be nice to have a college sweetheart.
Uh try to go for girls who are 5’4 and under I doubt tall girls unless she special would date you.
>but when it comes to genetics I didn’t win the lottery.
Are you sure? You said you are described as a young Toby Maguire. I’d say thats more positive than negative. So in a way, you have won the lottery. Who else gets to look like a celebrity? People who ended up looking like Danny Devito would like a word with you.
>I’d like to date someone in college (I’m a senior in high school this year) I just worry that I won’t be able to do it. I’ve tried talking to girls in school but it never goes anywhere or I just get ghosted.
What about your high school life suggests you can’t date in college? Do you know how many people mature after they get to college? Do you know how many people flunk out after having a wildly successful high school career? Can’t date if you flunk out right?
Talking to girls in HS vs. college is super different. The open mindedness and freedom is next level. Sure, there will be times it goes nowhere, and there will be times you’ll be ghosted just like the rest of us. But you’ll have way more chances and a bigger pool of people. You should be thrilled you’re heading to college.
>I fear that once I get to college this pattern will continue.
Its up to you to break this pattern. You can’t just continuously get caught in patterns and then blame the pattern.
>I know that dating inst the most important thing in life but It would be nice to have a college sweetheart.
A college sweetheart? You’re aiming too high. How about successfully getting a girls number? Or having 1 date? Stop putting invisible people on a pedestal, and make some progress on your own first.
Not gonna lie you’re fucked
Just try aiming for a date, setting out for the one won’t work. Be open minded to dating different types of people. Dont wait for things to happen get out there now, even through bars or joining a club if online dating doesn’t appeal to you
This whole genetic lottery bullshit needs to stop. Seriously if you dont like the physical way you look or how people perceive how you look you need to work on it.
You realize everyone has similar bone structure. So everyone has a chiseled jaw but they dont do whats needed to bring it out. you know we all have the same muscles in the torso for a six pack abs. But those are not seen as much.
Diet is 99% stop eating shit, and go exercise. You dont have to become jacked and tan but at least go for regular walks and be in the sun. Dont be a pale basement dweller.
Work on how you hold yourself standing and walking around. Stand up straight chest out and head up! Talk to girls to get over anxiety of approaching and interacting. Work on communication skills so you dont come off awkward or have the conversation die easily.
And stop with the self defeating talk in the title! Will you be able to date in college? Yea you fucking can and will if you work on it and dont just sit back expecting something to happen.
And dont listen to the other bullshit about girls only want 10’s that are 6’2 and jacked. Its not true. Yea some are that shallow but 99% are in the same boat as you are with the insecurities and rejection and low confidence.