Dating : Worried of girlfriends new client
My girlfriend is a real estate agent and she takes my classes at the gym. She met a guy in class who makes millions of dollars a year. This guy buys and sells about 7-10 houses a year and owns multiple businesses. He started to talk to her more and more, then started to always pick spots by her and bringing her bottles of wine and then asked her if she wanted to work with him. Now they work together and he’s always texting her, even sending her pics from his “hall pass vacation”. She sees nothing wrong and thinks since he hasn’t crossed any lines then there is no need to set boundaries and that he’s also 15 years older than her so nothing to worry about. I don’t understand why someone like this would randomly switch agents unless is just trying to score.
If you trust her, than you have no need to worry. Maybe you feel insecure because of the amount of money he makes. If you feel that your gf would rlly cheat on you for a guy who makes a lot of money, is that a person you really wanna be with anyway?
That’s what they meant by saying “ignoring red flags in time”.
By definition this is insecurity on your part. Whether she’s actually doing something is a different question. Some questions for you to think about:
1. Is your girlfriend only valuable as a woman to sleep with? Why is it difficult for you to believe someone would be interested in her as a person and friend? Do *you* only see her as a sex partner or do you actually enjoy spending time with her?
2. If he was a woman, would you be worried?
3. Why do you think his income is relevant?
4. If he was interested in her romantically, why does that translate into concern for you? Do you not think she’s capable of being around men? Has she indicated in the past that this was an issue for her? (Btw, women typically deal with men on a daily basis… including ones we’re friendly with. We aren’t sleeping with all of them.)
5. Do you feel like your relationship is healthy and you have been putting an appropriate amount of effort into the relationship? Do you make her feel appreciated, supported, and loved?
6. It’s not clear from your post, but have you interacted with this guy at all? Do you think any of his behavior is flirtatious or inappropriate? What you describe just sounds like friend behavior, but obviously there are ways to do friend behavior that is more flirtatious.