Dating : Would you date an Indian man (Alberta, Canada)?
Hi, I’m 26M and I’ve been in Alberta for more than 10 years and have been living in Canada for 19 years and growing up here, I’ve had zero interest from women. I have no racial preferences, but I imagine it’s difficult for some people to date someone like me given all the negative stereotypes there are and with how asians are generally portrayed in the media. I understand that most girls growing up in North America isn’t dreaming about spending their life with someone that looks like me, but it’s really difficult for me to see a future here if I can’t find someone to share my life with. So, I’m posting here to gauge what the general consensus is.
All other factors aside, can you imagine yourself dating an Indian man? I’m particularly interested in answers from Canada and specifically Alberta. Please mention age, gender, country and why. I know people assume all sorts of things when you see others and I’d just really like a glimpse into what it is people think when they see me. Is it because you don’t think I’d like your music? Or you wouldn’t fit in with Indian culture? Do you think I’d smell bad? Do you assume I’d treat women poorly? Whatever it is, just please be honest. Also, If you don’t date Indian men, it doesn’t mean you are racist; I understand that we don’t really choose who we’re attracted to. So please feel free to express your opinion and please I ask that no one down vote anyone else. It would really help me to understand how much of a future I have in this country. Thank you very much in advance to all those who reply.
Thanks!
I’m from the US, and yes, I’d date an Indian guy. I’m attracted to men of all races, so that’s not an issue for me. But from what I’ve seen, most Indians pretty much only date/marry other Indians, and they’re pretty serious about that preference. So maybe the women you’re around are assuming you wouldn’t consider dating them or that you are going to get paired up via an arranged marriage. They may also assume that since you’re Indian, you’re either Hindu, Muslim, or Sikh. In Canada you’re surrounded by mostly cultural Christians and people who don’t practice any religion at all. So maybe women are assuming that a relationship wouldn’t work out, or again, that you wouldn’t consider them, because Hindus, Muslims, and Sikhs almost always marry within their religion.
I don’t know what you look like or your personality, so there’s not much insight I can give on that. Are other Indian women interested in you? When you say you get zero interest, what does that mean? Women may think you’re attractive, but we don’t usually go up to guys and tell them, hey, I just wanted to let you know you’re goodlooking, and I’d say yes if you asked me out. In an alternate reality, I might have the bravery to do that, but in real life, no way. I’d be afraid of seeming too aggressive, desperate, and being turned down. So I keep that to myself. So you don’t truly know who’s interested in you because people keep so much internal.
I get your concern about race. I’m a black woman, and I won’t even tell you how difficult meeting guys is for me. People have their preferences. Go where you are appreciated. I’m not saying leave Canada. But choose people who are open-minded and welcoming. If that means you wind up dating only Indian or other Asian women, that’s ok.
25F, born and raised Calgary. Sure, I’d date an Indian but knowing them beforehand is a must. There is seriously something about the culture of the NE that literally everyone asks very scummy and aggressive in the dating sense. As if you owe them something. It’s hard to describe. The point blank question of dating an indian man, absolutely sure. No hesitation. But history of observing how the culture acts in Calgary, there would need to be a reason why we are interacting, be it a common interest or work or school, as opposed to you just walking up to me on the street. Charm them with your personality instead of just being interested in getting in their pants. I hope that helps. Good luck out there 🙂
This is a really interesting discussion. For me personally, I don’t know if I could. I get disgusting messages primarily from Indian dudes who have no respect for women and they are aggressive. I think a lot of girls get gross messages but it seems to come from this group in particular. Of course I don’t think all Indian men are like that but that’s just what I have experienced so far. It sucks that some guys ruin it for everyone else.
26F from America. I would have no problem dating an Indian man. I don’t really have a « type » physically, I just tend to go for the personality. I’ve liked good looking guys (waaay out of my league) and ugly guys too. Tall, short, skinny, fat. If I feel a connection with that person, that’s all it takes. I’ve been told that I’m naive for thinking that way. I’ve only ever dated one guy in my life. I didn’t have my first kiss til I was 24. I’m still surprised that it happened lol. I feel like I don’t have many options where I live so moving somewhere else might be a good choice.
Yes if you look like Hasan Minhaj!
If you are a modern open minded man who takes care of himself I don’t think all girls would disregard you for your ethnicity.
I’m a Canadian woman, not in your area though. I am unfortunately not attracted to darker skins. It’s not racism, it’s just a sexual preference. Sorry.
I’m in America. 27, dark-skinned black woman. I know you’re mostly interested in answers from women closer to your region, but figured I’d toss out my perspective as well.
Personally, I’ve been physically attracted to a few Indian men so far, but I’ve also had bad experiences with the men endlessly messaging me on different forms of social media, not respecting boundaries, etc.
And culturally speaking, I just wonder if there’d be too much working against, especially considering that I’m a rather outspoken atheist who already has convuluted cultures working against one another.
I don’t think I’d end up going for it.