Dating : Yesterday I(30M) gave my ex(24F) an ultimatum. How do I stick to my guns?
So yesterday I gave my ex an ultimatum. We had been seeing each other again for about a month now. We are in a relationship in all but name. Going on dates, kissing, holding hands, sex etc.
She kept talking to guys on tinder and Facebook. Kept kind of throwing it in my face too. I finally snapped. I said I don’t think I can be friends with her. I gave her the ultimatum that I don’t want to be in her life if we aren’t at the very least dating and said she has a few days to decide. Don’t need a full relationship yet but I don’t want to be second in her life, don’t want to be in the friendzone essentially(not the exact words I used)
Last night she talked to me and asked if it would be ok to be just friends if we were both single and not looking. I said ok. My thinking is we are working towards a relationship anyway. My problem is more that it hurts Everytime she brings up another guy.
Today I’m going crazy because I don’t know what all that means. She seems to be trying to find a loophole which is hopeful.
I just need advice in how to make sure I stick to my guns. Idk if I can if she begged me to not leave her life. I have to though. It’s decided for me. I just don’t know if I can.