Dating : You are beautiful, just as you are.
When did we decide that loving and accepting yourself means you’re a narcissist?
I’ve read a few posts on here recently aluding to this, and I want to set the record straight.
Narcissists have an unhealthy adoration of themselves, a lack of empathy and consideration towards others and are generally overly focused on their own gratification. Actual diagnosed narcissism isn’t all that common, though plenty of people display narcissistic traits at times!
Self-love means being your own biggest advocate. It means choosing yourself and the things that are good for you, knowing your own value and feeling confident in maintaining your own healthy boundaries. It means focusing on the things you do well, acknowledging your own uniqueness and celebrating it!
Self-love means seeing yourself as the beautiful, whole, worthwhile person you are, just as you are.
The world can be a harsh place.. we don’t need to make it harsher. And when it comes to dating.. remember, your relationship with yourself is the example you set for others when it comes to how you’re treated.
So.. what can you do to show yourself some love today?
One part OP is missing – self love does entail being your own worst critic in positive ways as well. The most common example is people who are unhealthily overweight and hide behind the « I’m beautiful and therefore I don’t need to change » argument. It’s precisely because you love yourself that it’s important to realize when something should be changed. Obesity is only one example, others could be self-centeredness, anger issues, drinking problems, etc. Everyone has a vice. Just be sure not to « beautify » them in the process of loving yourself 🙂
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
You can be pretty to yourself all you want, this is dating, this is relationships, if no one sees you as pretty, then it’s pretty pointless.
I don’t think you really get what it’s like to be completely ignored, both online and in real life.
And I’m mostly a bit below a bit above average in every single aspects, so basically there is nothing to « fix », there are some unnattractive traits that never stopped anyone and can’t be fixed in any way, and there is the rest, that could be improve… everything could always be improved, hell I go on r/tinder look at engagement pictures and it’s either two perfect humans, or some people I can’t help but think « could do X, could do Y, could improve you know ».
I’m tired of trying to improve myself, I have no where near the results others have gotten at the same stage.
I’m perfectly okay, and it’s still nothing near enough to get a very low amount of attentions.
Go love yourself all you want, if no one loves you back at least you’ll be happy on your own.