Dating : Ive given up
I posted this on another subreddit, somehow I felt I needed to get this off my cheat to a wider audience.
So, this is probably a vent. Or, I don’t know. But I think I’m burnt out trying. I’m exhausted. I really feel like not trying anymore, I’m no longer going to go to bars or events, going to shut down all apps and just focus on me. I’m at the point now where I don’t even think about approaching a woman now, or sending that message on any app. Now, I just want to focus 100% on me.
I want to save up for a camper, to finally go on camping adventures I’ve dreamed of for years but never went on because I don’t want to go alone. Fuck it I’m going to go alone.
I’m going to go on riding trips with my 4 wheeler alone because I’m tired of trying, and wasting my time looking for a partner.
I’m going to focus on work, and building my dream of owning a semi and continue to live on the road. Ignoring my old dreams of traveling the country with someone.
I don’t know why I’m posting this, I just felt I should. Because I really am burnt out with my continued 100% failure rate at dating. I think it’s time to start enjoying life by myself, maybe bring mom and dad along since they can’t live their dreams on their own. Fuck it, let them get some happiness too.
Welcome to the club
Ugh. Could not agree more. Just came home from a horrible match date and deleted all my apps. Fuck it. It always gets me down- makes me think I am unworthy, useless, unwanted.
I know I am awesome (lol) it’s just hard to remember it in the face of rejection. I thought I was a good catch, but I guess I’m the only one that thinks that! Time to be me.
Yep, deleted all the apps 10 months ago. Best decision of my entire life. They’re just depression city and not the way to meet quality women at all.
Concentrating on you is the way to go. Looking for a relationship or a partner is not the way to go anyway. Just date .
Did the same thing a while back. No apps, no dates, not even a remote attempt. Instead have made huge progress on the game my team is developing, two other personal projects, fixed my drone and am building another, and learned how to do basic pixel art 🙂
Buy a tripod and camera and take lots of photos of your journey. If you ever get back on dating apps they’ll be indispensable.
Online dating like others has mentioned it totally suck right now, I used to get some good dates a year ago now nothing.. it’s saturated, a normal girl probably get up to 400 dude texting her.
I get matches with girl but most of them say hi and never respond or a few do but they eventually probably going in some dates with some better looking dude.. so I get left out
I’m above average looking but I deleted all app, it has been a total waste of time and it can be draining and depressing.
I’m spending my time getting fit , going to yoga, cross training, and focusing on my job as an engineer.
There was an interesting article that I read somewhere that now online dating is not best way to meet a quality person… find an activity that you like , focus on you , buy some new clothes, be confident, go out in the weekend and don’t look for that person, be happy or stay home , be depressed and wait till a girl decide to go out with you???
Also meeting a women out there is much better than going on an online date… most people have this expectation when they go on a online date and if you don’t meet one criteria then she will move to the next guy…
Always remember when you are texting a girl from these dating app most likely 95 percent of the time she is also texting several other dudes and that are either better looking or have a better game, they might not be better overall but that’s the reality… too much competition for a slice of cheese…. I have better thing to do with my time…
I fear this will happen to me, where I won’t find anyone and just be sad.
I totally hear you. Try being a woman who’s experimenting with poly/ethical non-monogamy, but also needing to have that emotional connection established first with a potential male interest before even hitting the sheets. Tits and ass are all that matters to about 999 out of every 1000 men, it seems – at least, in my experience with online dating. And that T&A had better be the only thing I’m offering, because apparently having an active brain and feelings/empathy don’t matter at all.
I have a wonderful poly partner who just gets me, who also knows that, for as much as he would like to be but currently can’t, I need to have somebody who can be more of an anchor/primary partner – and here I am, floundering in the murky waters of the POF’s and OKC’s and filtering this, that and the other thing, trying to « sell » myself to most men who only want to plow the row and then ride off. I’ve become so jaded with online dating of any sorts, that I’ve officially called it quits as of a few hours ago with both accounts.
And you know what? As much as I am disillusioned at the moment, I still have hopes that there is somebody else out there for me. I may have had my share of failed marriages/relationships, but for fuck’s sake – I’m still a woman, who still has some belief that I’m actually a person interesting enough to get to know, who has many strengths even among the character flaws or weaknesses, and that I AM a loveable person.
Many activities are quite enjoyable while alone. I once thought going to the movies on your own would be impossible to do. For me its been a special thing, but it actually was quite relaxing. Got 1 ticket for free and I didn’t want to waste the opportunity. So I went and watched Solo.
it totaly sucks i feel the same right now,
im totatly done with all this. a lot of it probably has to do with me or maybe its things beyond my control
it sucks and i might have to accept that it will be a long time before i find a woman for me
although i really do not want to be alone
i try working on myself and stay away from anything dating related but i always come back to this dating game cause im just that desperate.
Great choice mate, live for yourself only.