Dating : 27M can’t figure out how to move forward with dating. What am I doing wrong?

Dating : 27M can’t figure out how to move forward with dating. What am I doing wrong?

Hey everyone. I’m a 27 year old cishet man. I’ve had a ton of diverse experiences in my life with different types of people, jobs/trades, and experiences. I come from a strong and successful family and have had nothing but good influences from my parents and other role models. I live in a city 2000 miles from my hometown, working remotely as a mechanical engineer in a job I absolutely love and take seriously, and which pays me very well. In that job I have nearly complete autonomy and the ability to travel and schedule myself as I please. I own a house and a nice vehicle, and a beautiful, healthy, well-behaved dog. I have money coming in from diversified sources representing multiple contingency plans.

I cook or bake for myself most nights and actively work on getting better at it. I can make baguettes or cheesecake that you’d think were from a bakery. A love for mountain biking has caused me to take fitness very seriously, and I plan to begin competing in the next year.

My sexual needs are those of a submissive, and I am very much Demisexual, to the point where I sit here and can’t even imagine having enjoyable sex with a new person.

My biggest shortcoming is that I have no patience for much of anything. If I turn down an aisle at the grocery store and someone is in it, I turn the other way because it feels like the most efficient thing to do. If YouTube gives me an ad, many times I just shut the video off. I also grew up a little bit on the spectrum in the aspergers direction, and although I’ve gotten better now at empathizing and recognizing what people are feeling, I don’t necessarily understand it or respond to signals.

Throughout life I’ve set goals for myself and continually worked to meet them, save one- I haven’t the slightest prospect for a good significant other. I’d like to find someone who takes fitness seriously, has a successful career and who is sexually dominant. I’m not interested in children, but I would very much like to have a small family with an s/o and animals. Every so often I’ll find someone close, but it falls apart after a couple of months when we both start feeling like it isn’t quite right. I feel like I’ve been left in the dust, and I’m wondering what I may be doing wrong.

TLDR: I have my life together but can’t find a significant other. What am I doing wrong?