Dating : 3 long term relationships, 3x cheated on
I’m 29, female. I’ve been in three long term relationships (3 years, 6 years and 18 months)
All of them have cheated on me. None have told me. Every single one has said ‘I’m leaving because it’s not working because of x, y and z’ only for me to find out months later they were seeing someone else, they actually left me for them and all three are now in happy relationships with those they left me for!
What is wrong with me and how do I date/trust ever again? I am a broken soul.
Guy here, I’ve be in 4 long term relationships all 4 cheated on me. I’m engaged to the 5th. Find the person that values you.
You can’t control what other people do. Focus on guys that make you happy and hold the values you want.
There are a million reasons people cheat but if every single person youve dated has cheated on you, is there something in their personalities that is very similar that youre attracted to?
I mean a lot of people have a type and they just date the same type of person.
Also I dont want to generalize but those dudes are potentially just cheating on their new gfs too. Dont read into the whole « they seem so happy » thing.
I’m sorry to hear you experienced this, but do not think you are at fault for their decisions.
Have you been in any short term relationships that went better? Don’t blame yourself
Its not *your fault*. Sometimes you’re dealt a shitty hand. You just happened upon three jokers in a row
Sometimes you just going after the same type of person that can be the problem. As a guy I do not condone cheating whatsoever I always say if your not happy don’t cheat just tell the person it’s not working. I talked to a friend that I haven’t seen for a while she married a guy that was her total opposite and she’s happily married with kids. So don’t beat yourself up I’m sorry you got cheated on. But maybe look at the guys you’re choosing.
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It is difficult to say, but there is a common denominator though: You chose them. Are you into bad boys or jerks?
Either you’re *really* unlucky, or there’s something that you’re doing/not doing that causes them to seek intimacy elsewhere.