Dating : WHY do people think it’s racist to have strong racial preferences?
It’s like saying it’s homophobic to not be attracted to the same sex or transgender people. Seriously. I can’t help I have literally 0% attraction to any and all black women and have a heavy preference to white – white-ish women. How is this my fault when it’s not something I can help? I’ll call you racist if you’re not attracted to me. Ehy, see how dumb that sounds? People are all like « but you’re judging an entire group » no…. I literally am not attracted to dark skin. I’ve seen literal thousands and thousands of black women IRL and many more via TV n whatnot. I’ve never found a single one to turn me on. Aesthetically pleasing yeah, in the same way I can look at a guy and recognize that he’s good looking. But I’m 0% turned on by men. I’m not turned on by dark Indian girls either. I really only like my skin color and lighter. I’m also not a fan of natural curly hair or wide noses, any other type of nose is fine. I cant help it. Btw. I live in an area where over half the population is Black and 80 to 90% of the young people. So YES I’ve seen just about every shade, every height, weight, etc. Never been close to a single one.
And this is NOT even abnormal. It’s very normal to have preferences to your own race. I’m not totally white myself I don’t think. I’d probably count as « Off-White » or something. White ish looking but not totally white, I’ve got like olive skin color.
I’ll also add probably most or at least half my friends are Black and I don’t hate anyone based on skin color. N B4 someone else calls me a white supremacist.
I’ll also add that I don’t tell black women I don’t find them attractive because they’re Black. I pretty much do say » Sorry, I’m not attracted to you. Hope you find someone though! » It’s just when I’m asked about it I give my honest opinion. « Why do you never seem to find black girls hot? » Why? Because I’m not attracted to black girls.
And as far as is it racist? Is it? I guess so, in the same way it’s homophobic to not date the same sex or trans people. But it’s not hateful. I don’t hate them. So tell me how I’m a bad person.
I’m not good expressing my ideas but I think you should watch [this](https://youtu.be/cP-6ov3ghy4) video which does a good job explaining where the line blurs of preferences and racism in sexual attraction. Even if you dont agree with the ideas expressed in it I think you should at least listen to what it has to say
I mean… I can see why people think that already. You literally didn’t have to mention any of that but for some reason you really have to make this all known. People are calling you out for a reason.
It’s not racist to lack attraction to a race. It is racist to say « I don’t like black girls » or « I only like white girls. » That’s a categorical statement on a race of people. I don’t see why it would be hard to say « Sorry, I’m not attracted to you. Hope you find someone though! » and be done with it. Like, why would race come up at all? The people who tend to be so fixated on race tend to be the actual racists.
I’m mixed..i like European guys. So what ?!. That’s what I like. If you get mad. That’s your problem. I’m.not going to try to fit « your idea » or « your issues » I am me. I do what works.
For me.
I don’t want to weigh in on whether it’s right or wrong, but technically, by definition it is racist.
It’s discrimination based on race, is it not?
Because the average brain is incredibly feeble. Think about it, would you call someone racist for saying they dont find X cuisine racist? No of course not.
It’s just media brain washing.
It’s many variables. Race has been disproven as a biological theory so on a biological level there’s nothing about skin color that is making you…. averse to darker skin tones.
However it is racist to say “I’m not attracted to Black women or Asian women” because as you’ve pointed out there is a variety of them and they all look different. How can you write off a whole race? I think it’s because we’re conditioned to. We don’t typically see features like dark skin or wide noses as attractive within the media or in the couples around us. Socioeconomically, we typically don’t see darker skinned black women in high earning partnerships, I think this all contributes into an implicit bias.
You having black friends doesn’t rid you of bias, in fact is the quintessential line that racist people use to try and prove themselves so ditch that. When people have “preferences” there’s always some reason and I’m not saying all preferences are bad but it’s a slippery slope. You’re not a bad person in general just maybe unaware as to why you have such preferences.
We’re biologically programmed to be sexually racist as humans. Like 100% sexually racist as humans. We prefer sexually what is more familiar to our own body. It’s not racism, it’s just biology.
People are just going crazy these days trying to force everyone to like everything. “You must like fat models”, no. Fat people aren’t as attractive get over it it’s just the truth.
It’s literally the same thing as if I started selling my own ice cream brand and then a small section of the population started demanding that everyone must eat/prefer my brand of ice cream. It’s like no, if my ice cream sucks and no one buys it then it sucks and no one buys it.
Back to race though instead of fat people, if most of the African Americans happen to buy one flavor of ice cream and caucasians bought the other flavor of ice cream. Should the African Americans call the caucasians as being “not fair” for liking the other flavor? Why don’t the African Americans just be proud of their own flavor? The Caucasian’s clearly aren’t yelling at the African Americans for liking their own flavor so why are they yelling at us?!?