Dating : 4 months in and I think he’s pulling away, is he a lost cause?
Lovely man spent the night Friday, he was acting a little off. This was elevated by his accidental pushing of a button that has nothing to do with him and is completely a trauma set in by an ex. I broke down a little. He was very compassionate and thoughtful. But he then canceled our Saturday night plans due to not feeling well and didn’t call like he said he would. He usually always follows through. He sent me two texts on Sunday, which is pretty off for us, we usually chat on and off most of the day and we have not spoken at all since Sunday.
I sent a message to help provide clarity around our last interaction, but not to ask for him to engage in conversation if he needs space. So I sent him this:
“Hey, I wanted to acknowledge you. I’m feel grateful that you comforted me when I was feeling vulnerable. I really value that you stepped up in that moment and brought me compassion and thoughtfulness.
I want to take ownership of my reaction, apologize for my impacts to you, and state again that I know you weren’t aware that trigger existed for me. I have never once felt that way with you, and it was 100% a reaction to ghost I didn’t know was there.
Sharing about it with you was hard. I feel raw and sensitive about it. I had not meant to become so vulnerable about something I wasn’t feeling quite ready to share about. I am concerned that sharing in that way may have put you off. I feel really happy where we are and I fear that may have not have come across as true, given I was stress crying.
I hope you don’t catch that bug, that you are feeling better and that you are having an awesome week.
Thank you ”
I sent him this 24 hours ago. Is he a lost cause?
I’d also be interested in hearing any thoughts on the message I sent him! Thank you all.