Dating : A girl(25) I got aquatinted on Flickr asks me(m,26) to be part of this expansive well thought out dates she plans and asks me advice, shares pics from dressing room while out shopping to help pick one, constantly messages and even shares meme (ikr !) while she is « technically » dating another guy.
PLEASE READ TILL END: I run fairly popular Flickr account based on rights of women, people of color and other oppressed and marginalised beings in our community. This girl texted me back in Nov’18 and conversation rolled on. And in March she asked me out for coffee. I explicitly asked whether it was a ‘romantic date’ or casual meetup. She said anything you ought for ( all this while she had disclosure she is dating this musician who is struggling to break through industry.). I was focused on my profession and wasn’t up to step into anything messy or uncharacterized I rolled the dice up to her to decide, which she avoided.
She sends these images of her trying new clothes at mall to help her pick one and when I ask her to direct these to her bf/or the guy she was dating. She says that he doesn’t have as good taste as me in women dresses. Or asks me for random assistance or advice on all things possible.
So, she has asked me on an intricately planned date which she planned and proposed this Sunday. I’m not eager to pursue this lady romantically. I’m truly content being just a friend or random acquaintance and have a good networking. HOWEVER, I WANT TO UNDERSTAND THIS MIXED SIGNAL/PATTERN TO HAVE AN INSIGHT ON WHAT IM STEPPING INTO. Or, is it normal for a woman to be this friendly and it’s me being an idiot over analysing the situation.
Thank you for your valuable insight and support in advance. Great day !