Dating : Is he ghosting me or could he really be that busy?
So I had a date with this guy on Thursday (its been 3 days since then). We both agreed that the date went amazingly, he kept saying that I was super hot and talented and that I was out of his league- that it was a 10/10 night and he couldn’t wait to do it again.
The next day he didn’t respond to my text until midnight BUT he had a legitimate reason (work related stuff, had to put out figurative fires). He was super apologetic and said he’s been thinking about the date the whole day.
I responded to that text 30 minutes later but didn’t receive a response. Decided to text him once more at night with a “hello” to gauge and still no response and now it’s been 24 hours. Is he possibly ghosting me or could he be busy?
The first time it was probably legit but it’s a little strange he hasn’t responded again, after all it takes 2 seconds to say hi how are you. People aren’t so busy they can’t respond to a text (unless his work is some remote outpost with no phone reception…lol). You have reached out it’s up to him to respond, I wouldn’t text again. If he replies then great if not then I guess it’s better to know now then a few dates down the line.
If someone can show you they didnt use their phone for anything else its acceptable.
However, I just left this app, opened messages typed, « busy, text later » to the first convo, imagined hitting send and came back to finish typing this. I didnt count to 5 before returning to what I was doing here.
If someone cares about something or someone. They will show it. They will tend to it and pursue it appropriately. Respect yourself and you’ll know if you accept how you’re treated.
It has only been 24 hours. If things are as bad as they sound, give him some time. Men tend to focus, if something is really going to shit, he’ll be focused on that and will get back to you when he feels he has the time to devote to you.
I’ve been like that sometimes where I’ll go a day or so without response, but that is because I don’t want to give a half-assed response, I want to be present and give my full attention.
> So I had a date with this guy on Thursday (its been 3 days since then). We both agreed that the date went amazingly, he kept saying that I was super hot and talented and that I was out of his league- that it was a 10/10 night and he couldn’t wait to do it again.
These are all positive signals, there’s no reason to be concerned just yet 🙂