Dating : Absolutely crushed
Been talking every day since April went on 3 dates was intimate with her. She did the slow fade and now she’s gone. Never would’ve imagined I would’ve fallen for this girl so fast and so hard. This is such a terrible feeling.
I know how you feel and I’m very sorry to hear things didn’t work out. Despite what the internet may tell you, your feelings are valid. Everyone is different in how they manage their emotions and feelings. Take some time to reflect, but know that things will ultimately work in your favor sooner than later.
I know you don’t want to hear it, but take it from a dude that was cheated on a replaced overnight after three years…consider this a blessing.
Any women willing to « slow fade » you is not fucking worth it and you were not in love with her (just your illusions of who she was). Be thankful you aren’t 15 years down the line, multiple kids, marriage, house, etc., and she slow fades you until one day she hits you with divorce papers and you have no idea why. « She fell out of love » or « Isn’t happy anymore » is all you’ll get…followed by losing 1/2 of your net worth and likely your kids in the process.
Consider yourself lucky, even though it might not feel like that right now. It will, eventually. Her leaving you, now allows you to find and put your energy into someone who will actually value it. Learn from this! The next girl is going to appreciate you, I promise you that. But put in the work now! That means moving on from this girl for good. Good luck!
I’m sorry to hear that. Ghosting is the worst.
Talking everyday with only 3 dates is a really worrisome sign. If you’re talking that much with someone but not seeing eachother irl, it mean’s there’s a disconnect going on. Too much texting/chatting and not enough actual connecting and intimacy.
Yeah, it sucks. We have all been there. Sorry.
Hey pal same-ish boat. Don’t have any advice or I’d use it myself. It fucking sucks though doesn’t it
Man go on a few more dates and you’ll quickly realize that she was only a blip in your life I promise things will get better from here!
Happened to me a week ago
Don’t stress it. It happens.
She most likely went back to an ex. Just hit the reset button and find another woman.
If she reaches back out in a few weeks, pretend you’re just starting over with her.
Keep moving forward. Can’t let one woman affect your happiness like this. I know it’s tough, especially when you like her. But these things happen. To all of us.
This sucks, how it feels, how it happens. But you need to learn to look at it for what it was and not for you wanted it to be. It was, for a while, a lovely time.
Somewhere down the road you will meet her and you will both have those feelings. When it happens its magical. She’s out there looking for you too. So when this passes go find her.
Giving u wings. Then cutting it down. Leaving u on your toes.
Ps: i guess you were chasing the loss..
I’m sorry. I know it hurts. One day at a time. You’ll get through it.
I know exactly how you feel, especially if both of you mentioned that you felt a connection and stuff.
I talked to someone for 5 months, he ghosts me (slow faded too at first) and then 1 month later after we stopped talking was posting that he is in love with someone else. Like obviously you two were talking this whole time, fine, but « in love » comeon, don’t you see those feelings coming way earlier, at any point in the 5 months that you were talking to me you could have you know thought about my feelings. At least let me know and explain things to me.
People are assholes. Your feelings are valid, you deserve to be treated with respect. And definitely deserve an explanation.
Same here bro. Immediate chemistry, an electric connection, and as soon as we became official, she backed away despite her being the one to escalate the romance. Shit hurts.
Women can be cruel.
Sounds like you were TOO enthusiastic. May need to tone it down to not scare her away.
But without knowing the situation first hand she may also just be a cold-hearted woman.
I’m so sorry for you. It’s happening to me right now too, it’s the worst
I’m sorry honey
I’m sorry friend. Happened to me last month – same thing! Fell hard and she slow ghosted me. It was helpful for me to take time for myself and fill my time building toward personal goals, time with friends etc.
I followed a no contact rule for 30 days and…well now I don’t really miss her. Met other nice girls that actually do want to keep it going. You can always check-in down the road weeks or months later (if you want to). Just remember who you are has nothing to do with how she treated/feels about you. At all.
That sucks that you got ghosted. A lot of people seem to have that experience, so you’re not alone
if she did that she is not worth missing sleep over let alone a bowel movement. Move on. It is her loss not yours!!!
Feel you. Same thing for me after 5 dates. Probably too enthusiastic as well. Next one I will NOT be too available, I think that’s what killed the whole thing.
People who behave as if they’re in an *exclusive relationship* when one does *not* exist are usually the ones hurt the most if things don’t work out, they are ultimately rejected, or *ghosted*.
If you’re not a « couple » you should be engaging with and dating multiple women.
If you were looking for a job you wouldn’t stop sending out your resume just because you had 3 great interviews with one company!
Until an offer has been made and accepted both the company and the candidate are within their rights to interview with others. It should go without saying if you met someone who *maintains an active online dating profile* odds are *they are keeping their options open* and so should you!
Dating multiple people also helps you avoid becoming *emotionally invested* in people you *barely know* and lessens the pain if things don’t work out because you weren’t *all in*.
You also don’t want to confuse *calendar time* with *actual time together*.
Talking/texting for 6-8 weeks with only 3 dates doesn’t make you a *couple* unless you talked and both of you *mutually* decided to commit. Making assumptions usually leads to heartache.
*** »Some people come into our life as blessings. Some come in your life as lessons. »*** – Mother Teresa
*** »Dating is primarily a numbers game…. People usually go through a lot of people to find good relationships. That’s just the way it is. »*** – Henry Cloud
Best wishes!
“Loosen up relax, accept for life and death matters nothing is as important as it first seems” lmo Pal
Talking everyday? Seems like you are overpursuing, causing her to lose attraction. You need to give her time to miss you and wonder about what you’re doing. Stop texting her!! When she reaches out to you, ask her on a date. Its much easier to build attraction in person and its more fun too!
I encourage you to google and review key words: Relationship Red Flags to ensure you are not displaying these traits that will scare off many women … especially women who’ve had bad relationships in the past.
It’s always good to spy on your spouse at some point …. It’s the only way to keep your relationship safe……. I did it once and I will always do it again and again … All I did was to get someone hacked into her phone boom …. I got access to all chat and text on her phone . Lol
You have lost your girl beacuse you moved too slow with her. You should have seal the deal on the first date!
This is the resaon she ghosted you. She lost her patience and she is in auto rejection mode assuming you dont find her attractive. This is point of no return, you cannot fix it. Instead learn from it AND DO NOT MOVE SLOW with next girl!
My best advice just move on and get the next one and make sure you bang her on a first date.