Dating : Advice on dating a rich girl??
She’s like gucci/prada rich due to parents. I’m like « shop-at-ross » financially stable college student. Like dang, she didn’t blink an eye paying for that $20 parking. I made us walk like 15 minutes so I didn’t have to pay $5 for parking. Felt like a real cheapo. I keep declining her invitation to go to the mall, because I wouldn’t spend more than 20 bucks on jeans and feel super uncomfortable at high-end places.
Oh and I call my car « shit-box » as a joke. She keeps complementing on how nice and clean my shitty anemic Corolla is; I’m very self-conscious about my shitty car. I’m even thinking about trying harder in class and getting a good-paying job, than just chilling, getting Cs and getting an easy job like I always wanted.
Dont worry about the money, worry about the person she is. Commenting on how your car looks good, she seems to be happy with ya. Dont worry about how much cash someone has, worry about their heart.
I think she knows exactly who/what you are and she’s fine with it. Obviously if she wanted a rich boy she would not be with you.
Don’t overthink things and go with the flow. Don’t try to be someone you’re not, be yourself, that’s what she probably likes about you.
2 BIG important things
1 Do not pretend to/ act rich too keep up with her. One it will bankrupt you two, it will not impress her, she knows the difference in your wealth and still decided too date you, NEVER pretend you have the money when you both know that you don’t. She will not appreciate you being a fake when she clearly already likes you as you are.
2 Be very careful that you do not let her wealth intimidate you. Understand you can’t keep up with her lifestyle, and accept it. Guys are often terrible at this, when the girl has noticeably more money than them it can put strain on the relationship because it hurts their pride and also because it makes them feel out of place. The worst part is this usually doesn’t start to bother them until a few months in after both sides have developed feelings for each other which just makes it worse.
Don’t want to be a downer here but it’s gonna be tough when you two have different lifestyles. Like she can be a very nice and understanding girl who is comfortable being around you, but eventually the difference in you guys’ lifestyle will creep up on either or both of you. From my experience, even though I made good money, I never felt like spending on designer brands. Except when I wanted something that lasted a long time then I’d invest. My ex was the opposite. He was so obsessed with buying designer clothes and limited edition releases even when he couldn’t really afford it. He spent hours looking at those catalogues and talked about how awesome these were going to be, what kind of materials they used blah blah. I couldn’t care less, like seriously I had other things to worry about. Eventually I got so sick of it, didn’t even want to hear anything about those stuff and all. When you think about longer term, it’s tough with a different lifestyle seriously.
try to look for adventures which don’t involve money.
Instead of going to eat at a fancy restaurant (where you can’t talk anyway), get some bottles to drink or food, go to a somewhat remote place and picknick or brunch there? Obviously depends on what yo both are interested.
You can have an hold and used car, but you can’t have a dirty and stinky car. Maybe don’t call it shit-box.
If you want my advice, she sounds like a lovely girl, from what you’ve posted.
She seem probably knows you aren’t rich, and still likes and wants to date you, my advice is to just be normal with her don’t feel like you need to spend money or do things that cost lots just for her, she will like you anyways doesn’t matter about your bank account.
Imagine if you can have a conversation and tell her you don’t have the money to do the things she normally does without consideration.
Would you still be comfortable? Would she?
If not – you need to get out now and find someone who matches your lifestyle financially.
You keep on with this train of thought, you’ll be like every other guy. She has money, she doesn’t need yours. What she’s seeking is your attention, your presence.
Be confident in you, doing your « I’m gonna save money » thing, she probably finds it endearing and will put up with walking with you because that’s *what you want to do*. Don’t pander to her, don’t treat her like she’s anything special *because of her money*, treat her like she’s special *because of her*. That’s what she wants.
The minute you start changing who you are and what you believe is the minute she will lose attraction for you, because you aren’t the person that attracted her anymore.
Just go with the flow and enjoy it while it lasts. Maybe that’s a week. Maybe it’s the rest of your lives, but just live in the now and enjoy her company.
she’s dating you not your wallet. she sounds down to earth. i doubt that she’ll ever expect you to match her spending because you don’t have the means to do so. most people are uncomfortable talking about money, but this is a necessary topic for you to discuss with your girlfriend.
you’d be in a very different situation if she felt entitled to have you spend beyond your means in order to date her. she doesn’t feel this way, so there’s no need to worry about the differences between what you can afford and what she can afford.
your ‘shit-box’ corolla works just as well as a bentley. she’s complementing you on how well you take care of your car, not what you paid for your car. she’d rather be with someone who knows how to take care of their car than someone who has their car detailed because they couldn’t be bothered to clean it themselves.
Let me tell you something. I grew up in the suburbs in a wealthy small town. My parents had money and owned plenty of businesses. I was spoiled a bit myself and didnt really realize it until I went to high school. But the community I grew up with are huge fakes. I couldnt stand people who has a dick measuring contest on everything. I was too chill for that so I was also kind of a loaner. My parents owned a chinese restaurant in a city thats pretty urban/ghetto and I worked there when I was 16. Let me tell you, the people I meet there were so pure and real that I really wanted to be part of their life. Of course there are bad apples in every community but I sensed so much fake-ness in my high class town that I honestly wish I wasnt that rich (i know, first world problem).
My point is how the girl looks at you, probably appreciates that you have no shame taking a 15 minute walk to save 5 bucks for parking because at least for myself, I am overweight and could use the exercise anyways. Perhaps she also thinks that experiencing a new culture of middle or even lower class is an interest because she spent most of her days having money but probably still isnt happy until seeing someone who doesnt have the most money ever live their life. At least when I visit friends in the hood, they dont have fancy TVs, cars, video games, or whatever in their surroundings but still offer love and care without a cost. Theres definitely things the rich cant ever buy with money but middle/lower or even homeless class has. Remember that.
C’s get Degrees!
Her complimenting your car is a good sign if you ask me. She appreciates you take care of it and doesn’t care about its « status. » She buys nice things for herself because she can, why not? I’ve been on dates with girls who came from money and acted bratty about it and put down my car. Even though I drive a nice car… it wasn’t nice enough lol
Become close with the father….real close.
Insecurities are so hot.
Likely wont last. Women really dont date below themselves socioeconomically speaking.
I wouldn’t worry too much about this. I aged a rich girl and she paid for literally everything and didn’t care that I was just fired from my job with no car at the time lol. If she likes you, then she likes you. That’s all that matters.
Dated a rich girl before. Well, not rich, but rich parents.
She knows you’re not as wealthy. If she’s dating you, it’s because she doesn’t care about it. Treat her exactly the same as if she wasn’t rich. Pay your share, and expect her to pay her share (i.e: not yours), and don’t expect her or her family to pay your share. Make sure you get along for personality, and not because of social status.
Be gentleman and sweet and she will stay
Don’t date outside of your wallet range? Lol downgrade to a poorer chick.
Listen. I don’t think she gives AF about the money. Or how much you have. She is likely aware of you being a bit ashamed of it. So don’t be! Go with her to the mall and enjoy your time with her because that’s the point of dating! The time you spend together is an investment in your relationship not the money you spend.