Dating : Am I A Jerk For Not Wanting To Date Someone Who Has Mental Health Issues?
Long story short, I sometimes to have people attached to me who are suffering from depression cause I’m a good listener. Some have developed feelings over time and accused me of playing with their emotions when all I was doing was listening and responding to them and asking thoughtful questions, like I would anyone.
I know how hard it is to suffer from depression, that’s why I respond, because I know exactly what it’s like to be completely alone and have no one help you when you’re struggling. It’s been a lifelong battle for me personally. It’s because of that reason that I don’t want to date anyone who has depression. I’m 100% okay with anxiety, I have it, I know what it’s like. But I don’t feel comfortable knowing that I could be responsible for how someone is feeling or always having to rescue them from the ledge.
I was in one relationship like that a long time ago when I was younger and it messed me up real good. Whenever I’d try to leave her, she’d threaten to kill herself. And then finally, I was free – ironically she broke up with me after months of me trying to do the same (she’s tried to repeatedly contact me, but I’ve ignored her/pretended not to see it)
I told myself that never again, would I date someone who struggles with depression. Maybe I’m being too harsh, since I have it and will always fight it.
When my partner had it in the past, it was always her first and me last regardless on how I personally was feeling / fighting with on that day.
TLDR: I don’t want to date someone who has equal depression to me because that would mean me not being able to work on myself and prevent myself becoming even more depressed.