Dating : Am I an inconvenient afterthought?
So I (29M) have been chatting to this girl (28F) for a little while, and on Monday 24th we went on a really nice date. I had a great time, we texted back and forth a little and I said would you like to do something again this week (she was going away with friends that weekend). She said yes, she’d love to. Said this week was super busy with a few parties, so we agreed on Sunday afternoon.
So away she goes, and I’ve not heard a peep from her until tonight. This is a week of radio silence after quite regular communication. If I were feeling prickly I could say that nobody is that busy that they can’t send a single line in a week just so things don’t go stale but w/e. Then this evening she texts saying are we still on for Sunday? I say yes, but I can’t stay out late as I’ve an early start on Monday. She’s doing lunch with some friends, then meeting another friend visiting the city at 3 for a little while but could then see me after. She is then also off somewhere early on Monday too, don’t know where yet. She’s asking how late I could stay out.
I don’t know, after a week of nothing my response has just been to roll my eyes. If this is a normal thing for her, always being so busy, that’s totally fine but it’s not for me. I’m starting to feel like an inconvencience or just bottom of the list. Am I being too sensitive?
She barely knows you compared to all her friends. Of course you’re not going to be a forethought. Don’t take it personally and after awhile if things are going well you’ll move up. She said yes to a first and second date no reason to think she’s not interested.
Sounds like she is a super social and busy girl. She sounds like me but a little more extreme. Don’t worry! Some people are bad texters and actually HATE texting.
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For me, I feel like in the moment I am always with people I love doing activities I love and I want to live in the present. Small talk through text is eh to me and sometimes it makes me more unattracted to the person because of how boring the conversation gets because.. its texting.
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Don’t get me wrong I love to keep in touch and if you’re my boyfriend I will make sure to talk to you often, but if we’re in the early stages of dating I just don’t see a reason to text frequently if there’s nothing to say.