Dating : Am I fucked up?
There’s this girl at work that I’ve gotten close to. We’ve been talking for about 2 weeks now and I wanna ask her out. About this girl, she’s a 21 yr old white girl and I’d say she’s a 7/10. I really dig her geeky-ness and I think she’s really cute. She’s still in college, really smart and her family is also super christian. About me, I’m a 24 yr old really laid back Asian guy. She’s super into me and everyone at works keeps teasing me about getting together with her. The thing is that we are the complete opposite, politically and with our beliefs. Although we do have really good chemistry and flirt a lot with each other I kinda want to just sleep with her. Because If we were to date, I know it wouldn’t last more than a month because our beliefs clash too much. Do you guys think I should go ahead and give it a shot, possibly break her heart or should I just call it off and stay good friends with her?
My advice would be to just be honest with her. If she’s down to be “friends with benefits” no harm no foul. But you have to make sure you tell her that’s what you want.
First off, y’all are coworkers. Just letting you know this has a chance of ending badly and it may at the very least make work awkward (unless you’re in different departments and you basically never have to talk to her again). If you’re willing to accept it then it’s your life, dude.
Second, even with the coworker factor aside… if you know she’s aiming for a serious relationship and you just want her to be a fuckbuddy/ONS, then I definitely wouldn’t do it. It’d feel shitty and deceitful if I knew the other person wanted to date me, because I’d be using their feelings.
My personal advice is call it off, remain friends, cool it with the flirting and download Tinder or something. However, if you MUST try to sleep with her, then I would at least be transparent about your feelings (or lack thereof) beforehand and give her the choice to say yes or no.
Just say you aren’t looking for anything serious and ask if she would be into that. If she is not just tell her things probably won’t work out but be respectful and move on
1) Don’t shit where you eat.
2) Don’t use her, because if you sleep with her and dump her you’ll definitely look like a jerk.
3) If you want to simply sleep with her be upfront about it, but she may not be open to it and it may make things awkward.
Thing with workflings is rather simple. You have to live with the consequences of your actions every single day.
You yourself are doubting yourself. should tell you all you need to know