Dating : Are women’s standards in men realistic?
I understand everyone wants to find a perfect partner, but long term relationships aren’t instantly made, and people can’t really change themselves on a dime. I feel relationships are built, and people change with the love for their partner. But it seems in the OLD world that Mr. Perfect is expected off the bat by all women, and I just don’t feel like it’s realistic. Maybe it’s just OLD, idk. Judgements get made before people meet eachother, yet they’ve never really gotten to know each other, if that makes sense.
I’m not angry about it, I get it. But for all of the single women out there not willing to change themselves, there are guys out there willing to sacrifice some of themselves to better fit what women want, and its still not enough. I know alot of men are dogs, but the ones who aren’t seems dismissed before they get a chance. I see it on this platform, witnessed it firsthand in some of my experiences, and see it all over social media. What drives this mindset? Do you women even realize you’re doing it?
People, keep an open mind when dating. They may seem one way texting you, but be completely different in person, and even more different once you get to know them.
I’m not angry or upset, just curious from a spectators point of view. . I’m not insecure, I’m able to land dates, and I’m a pretty happy guy, who is perfectly fine being alone, with some bouts of loneliness here and there that I can get over. But globally, alot of men are deciding not to date anymore. Alot of good men who have been turned down for something arbitrary. It’s becoming a toxic dating world, and changing how men act towards women, giving us more players and assholes who just want to get lucky, and leave. Am I wrong? If so, why do so many men feel this way?
Edit: Thank you all for some awesome answers and interesting discussion! You have honestly given me a bit more perspective on it!
Edit 2: I feel a bit more enlightened, thank you. But I must say alot of men do think this, and it can end up really damaging them. I’ve gained some new perspective, but hopefully some people can also gain a bit more perspective from this. It really is a growing problem for men, and men certainly aren’t guilt-free either, I know. Men are dogs, and it’s a good thing women are getting the upper-hand in dating nowadays. I just hope we can all be a bit more open-minded, men and women alike. Good luck to all the singles out there, I hope you find what you’re looking for!