Dating : Blown Away – being slow ghosted by someone who told me they loved me, falling in love
I am about to enter the ghosting club…well sort of.
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I am completely blown away. I’m normally very good at vetting people out before opening up to them. I met a attractive, intelligent, talented girl 3 months ago. a few weeks after we had met, she mentioned how she is starting to fall for me, how she did not want out first date to end. we had a great time. sex 1-2 times everytime we met. hung out 2-3 times a week.
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2 months later she drops the « I’m in love with you » bomb. We take a weekend trip. she introduces me to her PARENTS 2 weeks ago.
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Then, last week, we went on another 7 day trip together (with a few of her friends – couples). it was fun at first – but she got more distant towards the end. and I gave her her space.
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I left on an earlier flight since I had to go to work – while she leaves today. ever since she left, she has barely communicated. 1 text the morning I left, saying « thanks for coming….love you ». then nothing for the rest of the day and the following next day until late at night where she told me how much she owes her frined.
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Keep in mind, she usually texts 30-40 times a day – in the morning/ afternoon/etc about her day, etc.
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am I being slow ghosted? should I be worried?
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and if so, why the hell would you do that after telling someone you love them (as your last text)
Either you’re ghosted or you’re not. Theres no slow ghosting lol. Why not talk to her instead of asking internet strangers who have no clue what going on in her head
maybe she’s upset about something (either her life or the relationship) and is withdrawing. not everyone is a good communicator. ask her about it
Maybe she’s been busy with her friends, or unwinding from the trip just relaxing with phone out of hand. Talk to her.
I would talk to her bud. Slow ghosting def exists..
Slow Ghosting in a Burning Room
Maybe her friends or family said something?
Maybe something happened during the trip? You mentioned she distance herself at the end of trip
Either she could be upset because you left early leaving her alone or she did something sketchy and is ashamed.
just say you’ve noticed some distance lately and if anything is going on. you won’t know unless you ask
Assert dominance, ghost her first.
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Really though, it could be shes falling out of interest. Try to talk to her about it, whether text or a phone call without being pushy or intrusive if she does need her space – try to keep it short.
Have you ever ghosted somebody maybe it’s karma
It’s not ghosting, it’s probably as low fade.
This situation happened to me pretty much exactly to a T. He broke up with me on the phone a few days into his trip with little explanation, exactly 3 months into dating, having met his parents, etc., and when we parted everything was perfect. That might not be happening here, but it does happen and I still don’t understand it at all. I can’t comprehend what goes on in a person’s mind to do that, but it just means we think and feel very differently. Granted, he wasn’t without his red flags (mental illness, intimacy issues), and in hindsight I suppose I could have seen the writing on the wall, but I definitely didn’t at the time.
maybe family or friends said something, and that makes her doubt the relationship.
There is another dude. That’s why.