Dating : Breakups with External Reasoning
I’m sure this has happened frequently to many people, but I wanted to explore how people deal with this issue. How do you handle breaking up with someone due to external circumstances (ex: bad timing ect) particularly when you had a fantastic connection with someone and could see a future with them. In my case, they ended it because they weren’t ready for a LTR and needed time to find themselves. (She had very valid reasoning for doing such)
I find it hard to just pickup and move forward completely in situations like this. I absolutely don’t want to sit on my hands and wait forever, but it’s just hard to move when you connect with someone so well. You don’t find that everyday!
What has everyone’s experience been with this? Has this ever worked out in the end? Do you always move forward? Do you move forward and still have the lingering thought that you should wait?🤔
There is no such thing as finding yourself. It’s just an excuse to have wreckless behaviour. That’s why those people never get ahead in life.
All of my exes are gone bc of external or 3rd party involvement. You block them on all social media and move on. Chalk it up to wasting your time and learning an unnecessary life lesson
Always move forward. She wants to see you are not stagnate.
Gotta move forward. This has happened to me twice this year. First time, it killed me. I have depression and abandonment problems. So it really messed me up. She just didn’t want a relationship when we were going out. Now she does, but not with me… (It’s been 8 months since she dumped me, took about 3 months for me to talk to her again and she was like, « yeah I’m not interested » even though she dumped me because she wasn’t ready and it wasn’t because I wasn’t a good guy…)
The other girl, a ton of stuff happened. We had a 3rd date planned and then one of her friends passed away. Cancelled and I told her to take time and to not worry about us. Eventually we talked about us and decided to be friends and if things spark again, then we should try. She just needed to find herself in life, she used to be in a long abusive relationship so I understood that she needs time.
It is hard to move forward. Just take small steps. Hang out with friends or pick up a hobby. Just something to get your mind off things.
I waited for the first girl. Don’t do that. Really fkin drained my energy. Feelings linger. I’m going to school with the second girl but she’s 2 years older than me, so I honestly don’t think I’ll get another chance. Time is your friend here, even though it’s gonna hurt for a long time.