Dating : Cheating
I’ve been in a three-month relationship with one of my closest friends (15f)(I’m a 15m), I feel like I’m such an asshole for thinking about this but I sometimes feel like she’s cheating on me I know it’s probably just me over thinking and I do think that she wouldn’t do that to me most of the time…the reasons why I doubt that are
1. When we were at another friend’s birthday party she made out with her for 15 seconds with tongue, I made myself clear that I’m not ok with that, and she never did it again, that was her first kiss so that messed me up for a while.
2.I asked her if she would go on a date again one week after our hypothetical break up? She say maybe (she already told me that she loves me)
3.i asked her if she would go on a date with my best friend if he asked her out, and we weren’t together anymore. She said yes probably because it’s something to do.
4. I ask her if she wants to talk on the phone she said yes, I call her and she ignored the whole time
I asked her if she heard anything that I said, she said yes. I asked her if she was going to answer me questions she said that she doesn’t want to and that she can’t talk right now because her parents are in the next room, i said « ok fine can we text » she said yes so I texted her
She disappears for two hours and after two hours she says hi I asked her where she went she said that she was talking to a friend on the phone
I replied with « wow for two hours? » she said yes
I can’t really talk to her about this because she gets all defensive
Am I over thinking or am I being responsible?
And if I’m over thinking how can I get over that and grow up?
Thanks! Any reply is appreciated!
At this point, and this age, it’s not red Flags she’s sending, it’s red Poles.
I’d prefer to lose her than my self-esteem and sanity.
Deep down, you know exactly what the right thing to do is.
Yeah. It’s the immaturity factor here.
I would ask yourself the question « what is she giving me and I’m giving her? »- a relationship should not be based upon a selfish what you want out of it.
Sounds to me like she is giving you confusion, trust issues and generally the whole thing is making you unhappy.
I would recommend Coach Corey Wayne, he’s got a solid book (3% man) and has hours of yt content, most people find him when its too late. If you want a good relationship with this person, start reading it (I have read it and it helps a tonne) and even if whatever happens here fails, then you can apply his teachings to future relationships- as well as what you’ve learnt in your current one.
Hope this helps
No idea, as young as you both are I can’t tell shit. Could be cheating, could be you overthinking it, could be immaturity levels causing confusing behavior. I honestly wish I could give you better advice but you are both 15 everything is fucked up about you both and it will continue to be for another 15 years, on the upside in 7-10 years you’ll start to realize how fucked up you are. You’ll still be fucked up but at least then you’ll know it.
Literally a clusterfuck of a situation here… she sounds awful tbh and you should dump her out of your life.