Dating : Do men want girlfriends anymore?
This is aimed at men as I am a hetero woman so please refrain from the ‘women are like that too!’ Comments.
Everytime I ask a guy or he asks me and I ask back what they’re looking for, its always casual or ‘nothing serious atm’, I’m starting to lose hope that any men actually want a gf or just want to fuck around.
I do, ltr relationship is my goal. I’m not about the casual sex life though I don’t know if I provide enough value for women these days.
Have you ever rejected a guy that clearly wanted something serious with you?
If you did, was it because you didn’t feel the spark?
Is the spark coming from men that don’t want something serious?
If you answered all of the above as yes, then you might be emotionally unavailable.
You might think you are looking for something serious, but deep within, you are not allowing yourself for it.
I’m just speculating on you here though.
To answer your question, obviously yes, but it’s true what others have said, the charming, fit, tall guy has a lot of options, and maybe he’d rather be casual with 5 dif women than being with in one serious relationship.
Not condoning, just explaining – men will commit when they find someone they find worth committing to.
When men want “nothing serious,” chances are it’s just that they don’t want anything serious with that specific person. Unlike many women though, men don’t mind having sex without emotional connections so they’re fine having sex with a woman they will never want to date. This is why it seems like men never want to commit, when really men are more likely to use women as sexual placeholders until a better one comes along.
I would want nothing more than a gf a person I can show my love and affection to while hopefully receiving the same treatment, but alas no matter what I try dating apps, asking someone I’ve talked to for a while etc, I either get no matches, or told the same as you or that they see me as just a friend/brother.
We want relationship just with the right woman. From my experience girls can be on some of their f*clerc when you tell them you want something serious, all of a sudden they change and modify their behaviour from what they really are to what they think you want.
Happens too often…often times not “looking for something serious” is an euphemism for
“I am prepared to just screw around if you are about just that”.
Or
“I don’t know you well enough to divulge that kind of information”
Going to have to offer the cliche « you’re probably not attracted to the guys who are seeking committed relationships. »
Men say that we are looking for something casual because if we say we are looking for a serious relationship it instantly scares women off.
Yes, some men do want girlfriends.
Consider this though.
The men that are confident, handsome, tall, charismatic, AND humorous are very desirable by a lot of women. The type of men that women actually want to be girlfriends for, have multiple options.
If you want a man that exhibits such qualities to consider you as his girlfriend over another woman, you’d have to bring something to the table that makes you stand out.
I’m 27m and that’s precisely what I wanted. Never had much interest in something casual or hookups. I wouldn’t mind casual sex if it came knocking on my door, but I’m not willing to actively pursue it.
I want a companion. Someone with which we can stare into each other’s eyes and see our souls. Someone with which to share vulnerability. Someone with which to share a life, laugh and cry together, grow old together and take long walks with while holding hands.
Something casual has absolutely no value in comparison to that, in my humble opinion.
I mean I’d like one, but the women I’m attracted to aren’t ever attracted to me, let alone single. Of course if a girl just wanted to fuck, I’d probably go for it at this point since I haven’t had sex in 5 years and just want to feel wanted at this point.
It’s because if we say we want something serious most women run for the hills.
Guys can’t afford to express to much interest at first or they get accused of « love bombing » by people who ~~doesn’t~~ don’t know what that term actually means. It sucks for guys too.
I (20M) was talking to girl (19F) who broke things off this morning , she didn’t like that I wanted a serious long term relationship. They are out there, but finding a girl who wants the same thing at my age is near impossible 🙁
Its all I want. Not interested in casual dating (unless I know it could very likely lead to a meaningful relationship) or hookups at all.
I’d like a gf. But saying I’m looking for a relationship can come off as me trying to force us into a relationship when there’s really not enough there for one. So I include « something casual » in my bio’s on dating apps. In person, I say « I’d like a relationship, but whatever happens happens »
I am looking for a lasting relationship, something more then sex. One of the few things I want in this world is to be a parent to 1 or 2 kids.
For now I just need to remember is that not all girls I date will use me then lose me, I have had a few bad relationships.
Plenty of men want a serious, committed relationship, myself included.
men are not a hivemind as far I know, if we are, then please guy let me in into the hive.
Now, jokes aside, some men want, some don’t. I, personally, don’t want a relationship
Yep, looking for someone to build the next part of my life with. So LTR or bust.
I don’t think I’m worth enough to date any women in general, so I just want to lose all interest in dating or ability to find anyone attractive in general.
I’m a guy who is looking for a long term relationship with someone. I’ve started to notice that OLD is kind of complete crap for this as people just use the apps mostly for hookups. I can’t imagine that hitting on people at bars is going to be much different so I’m really at a loss these days on where to find like minded people.
A lot of men are only interested in hook ups, but there are absolutely guys who still want LTRS. This day and age everything moves so quickly including interests in people. So guys and girls are alot more selective on who they want to be in a relationship with
depends on what you provide and what they want in a relationship.
i wouldn’t want to date a woman if her personality isn’t that compatible to me.
physical appearance will only take you so far to one night stand.
you gotta be authentic and embrace your own personality if you do want to meet someone who would actually wants you.
Yes, but can’t seem to find one.
If the woman is high quality I will date her. If she’s just hot I’ll shmang her. If she’s both idk what I would do because I’ve never met such a creature yet. As a guy who is fairly attractive and does a fair bit of dating, I’ve found that a LOT of hot girls end up doing OnlyFans shit. Total turnoff.
More and more men in the West are realizing that relationships bring little value to them and come with a lot of risks. As such, many are eschewing relationships.
I think lots of guys want to fuck around because of the current dating environment. So many have been hurt when they let themselves be vulnerable in a way required for intimacy.
Satisfying their base needs becomes their only focus, because there’s a sense of giving up on expecting something more. And they’re repressing this hurt, so it’s hard to open up in a more intimate way without releasing those emotions.
Deep down, though, the overwhelming majority of men don’t want totally superficial relationships. In fact, everyone desires a natural heart connection with someone.
I mean, yeah, no shit.
Men’s want to commit is entirely relative to your ‘value’ compared to theirs.
– If you’re below them a lot, they will never commit. (unless its one of those legendary « personality » relationships)
– If you’re equal (or even slightly below), they won’t have problems commiting and starting a relationship.
– If you’re above them, they will become obsessed.
Sounds to me like you’re going after men out of your league.
The men u met are a reflection of u same goes for woman.
I do, but i will admit i am generally unconventional.
I don’t am not easily able to communicate with someone I don’t know like it’s really hard. But I really want a girlfriend because I want to atleast experience relationship and then I can be like yeah just looking for something casual.(jk I want something serious but this kid of weird shit has sent all the girls away from me) hahaha
Sure, but I’ll pick a girl I am already « fucking around » with, not some random girl I’m just talking with. I’m looking for a freak for a GF that wants lots of sex. Bonus points if she asks me to be her bf rather than expecting me to ask.
Girls that ask things like « what are you looking for? » early on I just ignore, I assume they are too inexperienced. That kind of talk is for later (1-3 months) in my mind after I get a good feel for her on multiple levels.
Yes. I’ve been looking for a long-term relationship for most of the last six years. I’m ugly, so it’s tough, but I’m still looking. (I was in LTRs for most of my life up until this point.)
So I would say that it does seem more and more men are fed up and not willing to deal with the opposite sex other than a hookup. I personally think it’s sad but with the court system the way it is so negatively biased to men it’s just not worth the risk or effort marriage brings zero positives to a man. He looses half is wealth and almost never wins custody of his kids. Since dating is a path to marriage why bother. Granted I’m speaking from an observation of a divorced man.
I went through a casual spree for a few years. I’m about to turn 28 and I’m not really interested in a just sex thing anymore. When I’m looking for a real partner I can be really picky and not a lot of women meet my base standard (which really isn’t a very high standard). Be active (not fat) and don’t have a bad personality. A lot of women my age seem like they’ve themselves go, never tried to move on from their customer service job, and have freakishly high expectations compared to what they provide, so I’m just happily single until I meet someone worth meeting.