Dating : Do you keep photos (non-explicit) of past lovers?
I’m friends with a guy who has a folder on his PC of pics of past lovers and (some of the) girls he’s slept with before. This seems like kind of a weird thing to do to me, but maybe it’s more common than I realise. He says he doesn’t really look at it and just has it because he likes to remember the people he slept with, not for any untoward/creepy reason. All of them are just nice ‘profile pic’ type photos, not explicit ones. I can kind of understand a folder of photos of exes, to save a memory of that time period? What do you think?
It depends on why he keeps them (which is something you’ll never really know) but I’m still good friends with my ex of 7 years and if I were to delete all of the photos or her or of her and I I’d be deleting 7 years of my life which I didn’t really want to do. So yea, I still have tons of photos of us and her (mostly because I took the ones of her so they remind me of where we were like when we’d travel together). Nothing more than nostalgia honestly.
I do. Also, non-explicit. It’s either for nostalgia or for a sense of accomplishment. In my case, the latter. Like having a photo of you climbing, getting a diploma or anything that required hard work.
Not a red flag if you are not hung up on them, but only the owner knows that. Only he knows why he is nostalgic or feels accomplished too.
I have a whole box of things from exes and have kept photos of them/us from when we were together. I didn’t keep any nudes or explicit photos, just happy memories of trips and fun times. I have shirts from lovers I still wear for pjs, when I’m painting, or yard work. I have small gifts in the box, and dried flower petals from anniversaries.
Any lover that found out about the box got upset and one offered to burn it with me.
It’s nostalgic. It’s part of my life. I know my memories won’t last forever without something to boost them. It’s my history and life. Partly trophies too – for the sexy studs I’m still in disbelief I spent sexy time with.
People used to have scrap books and photo albums. My grammas showed me photos of their past lovers but it was understood grampas didn’t know about the photos. So idk, I think it’s pretty normal to hold on to memories and pat yourself on the back for the people you’ve had in your life for a time. Either or, pretty innocent.
Sounds like a trophy case. Pretty common for serial killers haha
Seriously though, I don’t think that’s normal. Leaving pictures up on Instagram or Facebook is different, but if he’s straight up dragging new headshots into this folder every time a relationship ends, that’s really quite odd.
If it’s like albums from times they spent together, that’s different, but it doesn’t sound like that’s what you’re describing.
Yes I do. I’ve taken them and put them in a separate memory folder where I can’t look at them easily. I’m saving the ones from the most recent relationship because we taken a fantastic trip together and there are lots of images I may want to revisit in the future.
I think what I’m building is a memory box. There may be times in the future where I want to look at these pictures and remember good things that happened in my life. Yes there will also be memories of bad things but in every failed relationship there are good memories.
I still have pictures of my exgf. Im keeping it just to remember the good old times.
> He says he doesn’t really look at it and just has it because he likes to remember the people he slept with, not for any untoward/creepy reason. All of them are just nice ‘profile pic’ type photos
Being hung up on past sexual partners is a monumental redflag.
I could understand if this was a of him with a gf at the grand canyon or something, but just random profile type pictures of random women hes slept with? Incredibly weird at a minimum.
A few profile pics probably is harmless. If it’s normal photos (i.e. trips/parties/etc), that’s just normal memories.
A collage of exes, and I’d start to back away…
I still got photos of exes, but I never look at them and it’s only 2 photos. Is that really enough to cause a fuss?
Reprobate behavior.
I have photos of most girls I slept with, somewhere on all clouds/devices.
But I don’t have a specific folder for them saved on my PC. That’s kiinda weird. Like a digital trophy case… »Oh, I don’t compete any more, I just like looking at the trophies on the mantle… »