Dating : Does anyone else need more than 3 dates to see if they like the person?
Idk maybe I’m weird.
I need like two weeks to know.
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Idk maybe I’m weird.
I need like two weeks to know.
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Not the only one… it is going to take a few weeks and dates to get to know each other a little bit and be comfortable kissing someone…
Ya 1000% it takes me more than 3 dates to see I like someone and could vibe with them…but that’s also because I don’t get comfortable with people quickly
Two weeks is two dates, so….
No. It’s usually obvious very quickly. If you made it to date three, which hopefully takes a bit longer than two weeks, I’m probably seriously considering you. I’m also 35 for reference though, so we may be in different places.
I’ve been on like 10 dates with someone just because I liked hanging out with them, and I thought it’d be a bummer to just break it off because I liked them as a person but not as SO material. I also thought I might just need more time to be attracted to them in that way but eventually you get to a point where you really don’t want them to develop stronger feelings for you, so unfortunately I had to stop going on dates with them because they wanted to get more serious. Very sad, they were a really nice person but I could only see them as a friend.
Personally 1 date to like, 10 to love.
Absolutely, yes. People get nervous, some folks have anxiety and it can take 3 dates to really get their personality out. Outside of not feeling sexually attracted whatsoever or seeing some serious red flags in a person, I will usually give someone 3 dates before deciding if I like them or not.
I feel like a lot of people, particularly those 30+, are real big on this whole ***IF ITS NOT INSTANT SPARKS AND I DON’T HEAR INSTANT WEDDING BELLS I AM WASTING MY TIME*** and it’s honestly really laughable because….sweetheart, has it worked? Because I’m seeing a whole lot of people saying the same things on this sub.
It would be great if all of us exercised a bit of patience in this department. I actually think the whole « instant sparks or bust » mentality is a huge reason why it has become so incredibly easy to objectify people through OLD.
Man, I (49F) need like 2 months before I feel like I can know them enough to like them…
For me, way more than 3 times. I don’t wanna just like some shallow stuff. Wanna figure out if the personality fits, I think I need over a month.
Depends on the person really.
I remember I dated my ex for maybe 3-4 weeks (met up like 8-9 times I believe) before she finally fell in love and we had a relationship for over 12 years.
Before that she absolutely didn’t had any feelings for me
No, I know pretty much right away, certainly by the end of the date.
If by like you mean attracted to then no. If you mean like, would I want to date this person?
Then I agree. It’s hard to know that from just one date. I’m
Unless it’s an obvious no I’ll always try for at least a second date, because the first is really just about breaking the ice.
By the end of date 3 I have a reasonable idea if I like someone or not. If I don’t have any kind of romantic inkling then it’s time to wind it up.
Usually through texting, then some filtering. All first meetups are always good until I’m bored.
If you are a woman that is 100% normal. I always notice that men fall hard very fast
I can usually tell after the 1st date. However, sometimes I’ll date them for 2 weeks and realize I can’t stand them lol. We’re all different. I think longer than 3 dates is pretty sensible.
no lmao. I need 20 minutes
Nope, I would always know, right away on the first date.
Usually 1 date is enough to find out if we’re compatible.
As long as you’re “ready” to date, thinking after the first date you’d have a good idea if you’re interested in seeing the person again. After 3 dates if you’re unsure maybe you’ve already answered your own question? If you’re not feeling a green light for date #4 it’s likely not a go.
I can usually tell if someone isn’t for me pretty quickly. However it takes probably 6-8 hours of hanging out for me to get interested in someone. I’m a fairly guarded person for what it’s worth. I’ve had meh first dates turn into good relationships. I’ve had great first dates fizzle out by date 3.
2 weeks? Typically the first date tells me if there is physical attraction. Anything passed that is personality, etc. Compatibility? Takes about 3-5 dates. But « like »? After 1-2 dates I know
Oh definitely
There is no hard and fast rule, and why should there be, we’re all different. So long as you’re communicating with them, I don’t see the problem. They might, but that is on them.
Having said that, if you made it to date 3, then you like them to some degree. You’re not required to decide if they are your future life partner after this date, just if you want to see them again, it should work itself out.
There isn’t a general standard. Go with what helps you find your best match.
I can rule someone out on the first date, but it takes me a long time to know I want to date someone. I’m with you there
I have extreme anxiety so it’s less like to see if I like them, but to see if eventually I can let my guard down and be calm/comfortable around them and that takes a really long time for me to feel out
I feel no matter how much I meet the person there’ll always be a part of him idk. So i don’t even wanna waste my time.
Depends how good you are at doing your research.
I think I know pretty quick if I don’t like someone, but it definitely takes me at least 3-5 dates to know if I like them romantically as opposed to just getting on well in a friendly way.
Nah, I like them before I get rejected, then on to the next!
Nope. I don’t go on boring dates. And dates with people I can just tolerate are boring. Why do that to all involved?
1st date tells me if I want a second. 2nd tells me about the 3rd, and so on.
But maybe you mean something different by like? I mean « someone I look forward to seeing, and enjoy their company ». Is that what we’re talking about?
I could be pretty sure about someone after 2 dates…
I recently told someone I didn’t want to meet up after we had been texting for a few days, just knew it was not going to work out… 38F for ref
I’d say there are different levels of “like.” After 3 dates I would definitely know for sure wether I liked the persons personality, looks, and behaviours etc. Definitely more than 3 dates to know wether they are likeable for a more long term dating partner.
Same! I need time to get to know them in order to know if we can vibe. Though, ofcourse with some stuff I know immediately; red flags, general feeling of being comfortable etc. If I’m not excited for a next, I won’t go. But as long as there is positive energy, I will take time to get to know them. Dated my ex for 5 months before being ‘official’. We really focussed on getting to know each other before just jumping in. Those are the kind of relationships that don’t end within 3 months after beginning.
My girlfriend didn’t knew if she wanted to see me again after our first date, pulled away from a kiss on the second date and kissed me on the fourth date. And then she just never left and I’m so fucking in love, it’s almost insane. People take time, especially if you meet them as complete strangers. Relax, whoever really wants to get you know you, won’t get discouraged. I was rewarded for two weeks of patience with the most wonderful woman I have ever met in my life. 🙂
1 date is, I believe, enough to get a good first impression. If I’m not sure after the first date, I may « force » myself to give a girl a fair second chance.
But 1 date, provided that it is sufficiently long and you can have a good enough conversation, seems more than enough to get a good idea already.
But that’s me.
I think like it’s a straightforward thing, from the first few minutes. You see the smiling, talking and breathing and you decide.
I don’t like their teeth, how their voice sound and they’re such mouth breathers.
Back then (before OLD) it used to take way longer than that lol but these are different times.
ITT: Perpetually single people that know 15 seconds into a date if they like the person or not.
Usually unless I really like them. I do need more than 3 dates to get to know someone and regardless of how much I like them at first there is a lot that could change.
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