Dating : does anyone else not really like sleepovers ?
Even if i really like somone, it takes a while for me to be okay with sleepovers and i prefer them to be at my place if they have to happen.
the guys i date usually ask me and try to convince me to stay over , but i just feel awks sharing a bed and i love sleeping alone , despite being pretty affectionate and even when i really like somone.
I told this to the guy i’m seeing now and i thin he was taken a back a little, he seemed confused and said normally girls normally ask to sleepover and don’t just leave. I told him it wasn’t anything personal, i just like my space.
lol maybe it also has to do with my intimacy issues ; but i just feel gross in the am and wanna freshen up and enjoy my space .
anyone else like this ?
No bed is as good to sleep in as your own bed. Plus you have privacy to use the bathroom at home and you can fart and do whatever and be comfortable. Totally understand.
I’m with you on this one. I love sleeping alone and I like taking care of my business in the morning and don’t want to feel self conscious. It takes me a few months and serious committed relationship before a sleepover.
Hate it. Doesn’t matter how much I’ve liked the girl. Naps are cool though.
I don’t mind. I like the intimacy and even buy/make them breakfast. I get why you like your way too, just isn’t for me. Sleeping together (like actual sleep) is great as long as you aren’t next to a heater/rabbit chaser – I don’t mind a little B.O. or morning breath. You can even fart if you want 🙂
It’s a good thing that you tell him how you feel and that he (seems) to respect that.
Me! I don’t like sleepovers. Especially early on in a relationship and definitely not on a one night stand. Even as a new relationship is blossoming I don’t like them. I do like snuggling at night and having them around but when it comes to actually “sleeping” I would rather sleep alone.
I sometimes like them, I sometimes don’t. But it depends on how early in going to have to get up. If you’re getting me up early, I’d rather go home and sleep well in my own bed. (I have only allowed one or two people to sleep over in the past 5 years or so, so generally, we’re at his place.)
One guy’s place, while « really nice » – his pillows sucked and it never really got dark because he had one of those gentle wake up light things. (OMG, I hated it so much!) We were up until like 4am doing our thing, and the lights just stayed on. It was so annoying. I need and WANT total darkness and quiet when I sleep (if not total quiet, just white noise, nothing more.) But darkness is something I need and it was NOT dark there. It was so hard to sleep and be comfortable. Otherwise I enjoyed him. But I was stuck because I didn’t bring my car to his place, so I couldn’t escape.
If it’s quiet enough (no TV or music, traffic is usually fine, just can’t be words that I can identify or like distracting noise,) and dark (I need to start carrying a sleeping mask in my purse or something,) I don’t mind. My bed is super cozy and comfy, and DARK. And pretty quiet, so people like spending the night with me, is they can ever be so lucky.)
I don’t usually get super gross overnight, and regardless, if he’s sleeping over, he should just understand that I’m human, just like I know he is, so yeah, I’m going to be a bit sleepy and mussed up, but literally no complaints ever. Often morning sex ensues. I really like being with someone I’m comfortable with in the morning and snuggling.
Now…if he doesn’t leave within a reasonable period of time, that’s annoying, but I generally avoid that by going to his place, with my car, so I can make an excuse and leave. And I wouldn’t have stayed anyway, if I wasn’t okay with him. I’ll leave right after sex if that’s all I wanted.
Also, I’ve never asked to stay the night. Every guy just offers well before I would make it a thing. And if he didn’t offer, I’d leave, but literally every guy asks me to stay. Even if we’re just on a simple date and not fucking. I’m nearly always invited to stay the night. Unless the date went horribly. I don’t invite people to stay often.